So if you haven't read "the rules 1&2" and "not your mother's rules"and "the rules for online dating" by ELLEN FEIN AND SHERRY SHCNIEDER- DO IT NOW. Try to get audio format even if it's more expensive-you really get the gist and the energy of it.I also got print copies for free from my local library but bought the Audibles. Even the old recordings (the rules 1&2) sound like a phone call from a girlfriend but "not your mother's rules" is high quality audio format.

Here's why- EVERYTHING ON FDS IS LITERALLY ALMOST THE SAME AS THE BOOKS. They are tried and true strategy. And I don't even think female dating STRATEGY is strategy.. It's just boundaries sis and a little advice.

Please... I beg you. I have listened to each audio ten times in 5 months. Good pick me up refresher.

And it's not "do game, game works". Not at all. It's "here's a way of being to not fucking lose yourself while simultaneously scaring away all the low value, not that interested men while not driving away the guy you REALLY do want (high value-interested in you, has integrity, wants to make you happy etc).

At first.... I HATED IT!!!! fuck these stupid rules... I'll be myself! It's not even about "not being yourself"it's about having some fucking boundaries for the first few months. You are yourself the entire time, just different boundaries.

And the results have been PHENOMENAL. Looking back, all my best relationships have been "rules", famous high quality relationship are "the rules" EVEN IF YOU NEVER READ THE BOOK YOU CAN DO THE RULES. But if you've had your heart and dignity smashed, just read the books (AUDIIIOOOOO so you don't just throw the book in your closet... So many little impactful sentences. Listen over and over).

Michelle Obama, Ree Drummond, these ladies all did the rules before the book even existed and they have committed, high quality husbands. you can learn more about their love stories in their books becoming by Michelle Obama or black heels to tractor wheels by Ree Drummond and of course again I always recommend the audio and got the audio version from my local library because you really got the energy and you feel the love which helps you manifest the relationship.

The more I listened to the books, the more I would think of them when I would hear about others relationships. Oh, they've been dating for 7 years and he got her a suitcase for Christmas? Not rules. And not a great relationship. . Oh, he approached her first, texts and calls often for dates, and pays? That's a man who is INTERESTED IN YOU AND WANTS TO BE WITH YOU. Not the guy you had to give your number.

I can't explain it... But you can't UN READ the rules. You just can't. You'll see how true they are... And finally feel a sense of control over your life and not lose yourself when you meet a guy you really like. Stop wasting your time. Invest $30 in those books or $35 for audio. Best decision of my life. Love those books. It's not "do this, do that". It's "here are the boundaries you can use to ensure you waste zero time with men that aren't that interested, and how to really stimulate a high quality man to respect you and want a relationship with you".

Fuck casual sex.... No way. You are telling me you really wouldn't rather have a great handsome guy who loves spending time with you and wants to cuddle? No way. Get out of town. READ THE BOOKS. And it truly doesn't matter if the men know about the rules. A man who is interested is going to want to find out for himself who you are and what you are about. Men get nervous around women too! Plus, even myself am stubborn and want to do things on my own. A man who thinks you're attractive and interesting is not going to pussyfoot away because he thinks 'OMG IS SHE PLAYING A GAME'. No he's going to be like "wow what an amazing woman let me see if I can get her on a date. Oh, she's busy tomorrow but seems bummed she can't see me? I'll ask her for another day". It WEEDS OUT low effort men. You don't want a low effort man!

Furthermore, men are extremely competitive and a lot of them will still want to prove themselves as "the best man" even if you seem hard to get. This isn't disrespecting men- why should he feel entitled to your full time attention and affection after only a month or two?

By the way... MEGHAN MARKLE DID THE RULES. She didn't fawn over his ass or hunt his ass down. He had said himself when he met her he better step up his game. When you do THE RULES, or FDS (SAME THING), this is when you see men saying "she makes me want to be a better man". Plus I heard via Google that Meghan DID know the books, she apparently even knew passages by heart. Even if that's not true ... Her actions show that she did the rules. She even made a whole ass movie called "Dater's Handbook". ♥️♥️♥️