Advice for future (indian)

burtcoins · 2017-05-05T20:44:34+00:00

tell him you want to be a sadhu

mgtau · 2017-05-06T01:00:29+00:00

Holy fuck man, I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. I didn't know much about Indian culture before joining this sub, but the horror stories I've seen are insane.

In some cultures, it is very hard to not go along with your parents' wishes, I get that. But if you're going to save yourself, you're going to have to do exactly that.

1) If you're not already one, do whatever it takes to become a US citizen. Whatever the shortcomings of our country, you have far more protections here than you do anywhere else. Try as they might, your parents can't force you into a marriage in this country if you have the courage to say no when you're at the county courthouse. They could drag you at gunpoint to a church, but without that certificate from the county, there's no legal binding.

2) Cut down on communication with your parents. The less you interact, the less sway they hold over you. Depending on how intense the pressure, you might consider moving without telling them of your new address. There's nothing worse than parent's showing up unannounced, especially with a bride in tow.

3) Focus on things that would make them proud otherwise. Not having a daughter-in-law and grand children will be a bitter pill to swallow, but it's a little easier if you're a very successful doctor, lawyer or businessman. Worst comes to worse, offering to take care of your parents or flat out putting them into a paid-for home can buy their silence.

MRA-automatron-2kb · 2017-05-05T20:58:29+00:00

"don't believe in needing anyone else to be happy"

You are very wise and mature.

Whiskeybandit67 · 2017-05-05T21:40:16+00:00

As long as you stay in the US you can't be forced to marry.

Move out and move on.

Be wary of a trip to India, I read about men being kidnapped and forced to marry.

gods_bones · 2017-05-06T09:28:11+00:00

At 25 you are a legal adult and most likely working and earning your own income. Laugh in your dad's face and tell him no. If he pushes it cut him off. By this point the you MUST ensure you are financially independent in case he threatens to cut you off.

I know it sounds daunting, but check out /r/childfree and apply some of their rules on how to get people off your back about your personal life. You are not obligated to your parents to anything. They chose to breed and have you. They are obligated to ensure you sustain the highest quality of life possible, and no their traditional views have nothing to do with that.

ColdStoryBro · 2017-05-06T05:32:52+00:00

So just pay off your education before 25 and cut ties. They have a lot more to lose from you leaving than the other way around (you seem to have your health and your smarts). If you involve your parents into too many aspects of your life, they will start making 'team decisions.' That's why you don't want to reveal your long term plans to anyone and try to be as independent as possible. If you stick around them later, you'll continually be in a toxic atmosphere and that hostile environment isn't good for your well being. With that toxicity you will lose your health and you confidence. You will be a weak performer at work and at the gym. You will lose incentive to pursue your hobbies and put effort into friendships. Put your mental health above all else.

Title	Advice for future (indian)
Author	ACE-JHN
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	May 5, 2017 8:43 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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