Hello everyone... I have a question I wanted to get off my chest as soon as possible. This is my first post here so bare with me.
I'm not exactly new to the MGTOW community, I've been following it for the best part of the last 2 years although I haven't participated in any of the threads or YT channels out there (Sandman is my favorite MGTOW based content creator), anyway a little background...
I'm 23, average looking and reasonably fit (not fat or anything) I recently got out of a long term relationship with a girl I met back in college .Everything was great in the beginning, the sex, conversations, and overall time together seemed well spent. I thought she was the one so I bought a pre-engagement ring for her 21st birthday and basically made the promise to marry this girl once I was set. It didn't seem like a bad decision (financially and personally) - in hindsight I should have known better. Things were looking good, I had just gotten my first job, a new car and basically reinvented myself and looked set for success in all aspects of my life. Shortly after that I hit my rough patch, basically depression, got hooked to marijuana that killed my drive and got into crippling debt. Long story short I started to see what a selfish and manipulative person she was so at the end of 2016 I cut her off financially and emotionally effectively ending the relationship.
Now that I'm single, I've got a girl I grew up around who I talk to about a lot in my life including the breakup. I basically have to see this girl everyday since she works close to my office block. She pays me a fee every month for driving to work with her to work. She's got a boyfriend. The sad part is she says this guy is ready to marry her and all but she's in no rush for that. Last night she sent me nudes she took with her boyfriend doing their valentines day thing in her lingerie and all... boring stuff tbh but I still feel for the poor guy who thinks her girl is a saint. I would do a wham-bham thank you mam typa thing but fuck it the drama that surrounds women that know me on a personal level is too much (but i'm considering it).
Now for my problem with this girl... she acts and behaves like we're a couple. For example, I had a girl in my car yesterday when I picked her up after work which meant she had sit in the back. She sat right in the center so I could see her from my rear-view mirror, she intentionally tried to seduce me the way she was acting letting me peek up her dress by pulling her dress up to her panties, doing that thing with her tongue and lips and basically doing and saying things to make me give her the attention she usually gets when she's the only one in the car sitting in the front passenger seat. It turned me on a bit but I didn't act on it. I was bored with the both of them tbh.
This morning she went through my car, took and put on my jacket (she's wearing it to work), and showed me more of her nudes from yesterday. My question to the community is am I enabling this woman by being all polite and not calling her out on the shit she's doing?
Any advice on how to go about sorting this shit out would be appreciated because frankly it's getting distracting and I'm not interested in any kind of "relationship" be it sexual or emotional.
Thanks DarkMatter06
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I personally will not allow women into my vehicle anymore. The only exception is when I drive a friend and his gf around and he must be present in the vehicle as well.
If you are alone with a woman, all she needs is to say to the cops, "he stopped the car in an alleyway and raped me", give herself a few bruises and claw marks, and then before you know it you are charged with sexual assault. It's not worth the trouble.
I do know a few women who I believe I trust, but I would rather not take the chance.
And I agree with the other post as well, what will she do when she realizes you aren't giving her what she wants?
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I had a similar thing once. Just don't act on it, if you want it to stop say something that's like a slap in the face to her "it's getting weird now name here , I don't even have those kind of feelings for you. You feel more like a sister to me." Something along those lines worked for me, she was just bored in her marriage and looking to make me plan b.
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Do this now... the sooner the better.. you can stay acquaintances or even friends and keep doing "carpooling" as it sounds it is a money for service arrangement, you should also tell her to not send you nudes.. tell her it makes you uncomfortable... you don't show your nudes to your male friends after all.. same level of weirdness.
Basically put her in the friend zone and do it fast before she escalate to active pursuing you.. it may ended with her being jaded and hostile if rejected but only when you allow this to remain not "addressed" so address this OP.
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IF you're going to continue to let her ride with you, which you shouldn't, spend $60 on a dashcam that also records audio and back up the recordings every few days. It's great to have regardless and as long as your car is running, it's recording.
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