Btw thanks for calling women out on their attention seeking , it called me out on it.

I’m going to unsubscribe now and learn about attention seeking so I can stop it.

But I’m not unsubbing because of that. I’m unsubbing because I realized that this sub is ..:

It does exactly the type of atttention seeking I do. I got used by my mothers need for my attention... she’d sweet talk me and claim she loved me and cared for me. But her behavior was the behavior of abuse.

Long story short I am the way I am, out of defense against her. I had to give her attention but I hated giving it to her. I had to receive her attention but I hated it.

So I developed an self- blind mindset thinking that I don’t want attention, and yet acting in ways that sucked peoples attention into me. And then I’d get depressed over that attention.

I thought I was coming to MGTOW because of their philosophy — and how I relate with how abusive women are. And maybe that was part of it.

But now I see that, more so than either, it was that I related about the needy behavior of the sub. It felt like home. But now that I’ve identified this in myself and see it in you too, I leave - but that is my response. I go my own may which isn’t MGTOW.

If you are MGTOW truly, you would stfu about women and actually go your own way.

Talk about your life and share it. The posts like “went hiking on this mountain” are cool posts that uplift spirits. But the negative posts - they bring you back into your pain and frustration. A philosophy wisdom of mine is, descending into emotions is healing, but there is a time and place for it. My time for my heaviest emotions is every night, alone, for an hour or two before I sleep. Is your time really posts on this sub? .., perhaps, make a sticky for it, or flairs. But I’m me and not you so do your own thing my advice probably ain’t so great except for me lmao

It’s likely I’ll get mocked and downvoted and ignored and that’s a shame. But I don’t care 🤷‍♀️ Whatever do as you wish. I don’t get hurt by insults anymore. Well it stings like a paper cut I guess but I see insults as just another way to learn.

Stop caring about attention seeking because yes, humans seek attention. We are social creatures and attention is the tool of the trade. In order to be a strong community, we need to be a community, and in order to be a community we need to ask for and give attention.

But attention seeking can be toxic. And it is true that there are a lot of toxic attention seekers out there. But just the same as that, this sub exhibits toxic attention seeking behaviors - it bashes women and calls them out, so of course women come here and make a fuss about it. You honestly want women to stop coming here? Then stop talking about them.

Be resolved to go your own way, and honor that resolve and go that way. Bashing women ain’t going that way.

Anyway I said a ton and it’s not well written. Probably not get much interest.

Thanks for all that I learned from being here. See ya! (If people ask me anything on this post I’ll reply to answer but otherwise I’m gone from this sub) thanks and bye! ☺️ 👋