Good evening gentlemen,

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I wanted to get your advice on how to avoid social situations at my new job without raising suspicion of being some kind of weirdo. A few weeks ago I landed a new job with a large multi national corporation. We are a group of 20, 12 males and 8 females in training that will be together at least a year. Most of these people are recent grads or people who graduated 2 years ago at the latest, I am in my late 20's. This job means the world to me, out of college I struggled greatly to find a job in my field. Since then I have done my share of shit jobs and the last thing I want is drama, an HR summons or to lose my job. If you approach a woman at work and she doesn't like you, HR summons. If a woman approaches you and you don't reciprocate, HR summons because that is basically rape.

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So from day 1, these people have been organizing happy hours, outdoor activities, weekend nights downtown, it's 2019 and I really don't want to take part. Over the years I have become good at body language and I can already tell who is fucking who. There are thousands of beautiful women in this city, I do not want to get involved with the 8 that I work with every day.

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What are your thought's? Should I be going out with these people or am I correct to be cautious? How do I avoid these social situations without seeming like an anti social weirdo?