My boyfriend lost all his friends

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tl;dr My boyfriend of 2months (we’ve been really good friends for 2years) has lost all his close friends in one year. And its making me start losing interest in him. What should I do?

Ok so, we started dating like 2 months ago but we’ve been really close for 2 years. He had an amazing social life with great people. His former best and close friends are also good friends of mine. But about a year ago something changed in him, he started loosing friends. And just as we started dating and he started sharing more things with me it seems like he really doesn’t have any close friends anymore. And the people that he lost tell me that he just doesn’t care about relationships, he doesn’t find the time to care about his friends, and doesn’t see the need. I talked to him about it and that’s exactly what he said... He doesn’t care. He doesn’t care that he just lost his best friend. Completely lost all contact with him. He doesn’t care. But I care and I care very deeply. I feel like his social life was a really big thing that made me like him. He was always super out-going and had so many amazing people around him. Now he lost it all. I still like him so much as a person.... i think.... but god do I want him to regain his friends. Because I KNOW it’s his fault. He doesn’t care about them at all. But he did, he cared about them so deeply and put so much time and effort into his relationships. I KNOW it’s not my place to fix his life but I can’t help myself. I just can’t. I’m loosing interest in my boyfriend because his social life is declining... what should I do....

btw: I myself have an outstanding social life atm. And it’s because I care about people unconditionally. He doesn’t.