I first discovered MGTOW earlier this year. I’ve been reading nearly every day after discovering this community. I’ve finally decided to make a post.

In the past I’ve never had any luck with women. I’d meet them, it would seem like we had interests in each other, but then they would just disappear. This occurred over and over like a cycle and I always blamed myself, and felt depressed about it, and eventually just gave up even meeting women. I’d see couples out and about and just feel sickened about being alone; I wanted what they had.

After I learned about MGTOW and my brain started digesting the material, I started to see the reality of what I used to envy. I started to recall my own (limited) past experiences with women and realized why I’ve had no luck, why they disappear; and that I’ve been blaming myself for no reason.

I’m a nice guy, good character, value integrity (a Foreign word to my generation), but I fell for it. When I was younger I never succumbed to peer pressure; no booze, no drugs, no crime, but I subconsciously fell for the peer pressure that one cannot be happy alone.

Luckily for me I never let my loneliness distract me from my education and career. I’ve also realized that had I been in a relationship, it may have prevented me from reaching my current career goals. Earlier this year I moved states for a career opportunity; and it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life.

I’ve always been very independent, but have never fully embraced it till now. My loneliness is not a curse, it’s a blessing in disguise. I’ve taken my past freedom for granted. Opportunities I’ve had and progress I have made would have not been possible if it weren’t for the underlying freedom I have always had.

I consider myself lucky that I discovered MGTOW before being burned. It’s still hard for me to accept, but the truth hurts. It feels good to not be alone in your thoughts or struggles.