Conflicted/bothered

cryptotim70726 · 2018-05-04T16:42:16+00:00

What other people think about you is none of your business. You can't control it so why worry about it. The trick I used in my early days to gain confidence was to become solipsistic about the world around me. None of it, including the people, can be proven to exist. You allow it, or them, to exist by your conscious observance of them. I've learned to look at people as if they aren't really there. Many philosophers have postulated that reality doesn't exist the way it seems. It only takes form when we choose to observe it(think quantum physics).

Gaining confidence in yourself is all that matters. Do let others control your actions. You are a slave to them if you do.

alleskaput · 2018-05-04T17:05:21+00:00

When you started to realize you needed to change and your friends motivated you and started working out, you slowly started seeing improvement. That itself is a catalyst as motivation to push further which gives you confidence. That attitude you then take outside and you start to realize pain and sacrifice is essential for growth. You should apply those lessons in other areas of life.

Whatever you do don't ever say you're butt ugly, you don't really know because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Try to focus on your positive sides and qualities, then put effort on developing your weaknesses. I used to think like you too, because people are assholes that prey on the weak. It's the way nature works, eat or be eaten in order to survive, where only the strongest survive until their inevitable sickness and death comes.

When I was your age I thought I was ugly too, because of insults and I caught people staring which made me self aware. I was bullied both by boys and girls and bullied back in order to to protect myself. Yet on the other hand people were giving me compliments about my looks, usually older women.. other girls would stare, some girls would approach me, but never alone. Gay men would come to me to talk and sometimes a straight man would say that I looked good. I never believed it because it was all conflicting. Only to realize many years later that I was actually goodlooking. When you experience these kinds of things, assume that you are good looking. Whatever you believe just focus on becoming a better person and take care of yourself for your own good. Start giving less fucks about other people's opinion.

You're acting out of fear, which limites you from (spiritual) growth. The other fear is usually the fear of failure. Most people give up after trying things 1, 2 or 3 times. If you really want to win you have to fail many times over and over. Only then you can succeed and be truely free.

People insult you, or say you will never have that, it's not possible, they are acting from their own fears, pushing you down in order to make themselves feel better which is a facade. That's called the crab in the bucket mentality. When you are growing as a person and you notice this, you're on the right road to succes. Prove those haters wrong and bury them with a smile.

soundmixer14 · 2018-05-04T21:04:09+00:00

The girl at the gym is likely looking at you because she wants attention. Just ignore her and do your thing. When I'm working out I put my earbuds in, jam to my music and focus on my lifting. It feels good to be strong and healthy doesn't it? Make sure you're eating healthy too.

Mr_M0t0m0 · 2018-05-04T22:09:48+00:00

Congrats on your dedication to exercise and improving your physique. Hopefully, you are watching what you eat as well. We are our own worst critics, so you most likely are not "fuck ugly". Just stay focused on your long term goal/s and understand that that fem is superficial and will not enhance your life in any way. Stay away from her and use your time wisely by studying and learning all that you can. Good luck

ManGoingtoTOWn · 2018-05-05T00:37:48+00:00

I still plan on going my own way and spoil myself while i wait for society to collapse.

Waiting for society to collapse is a fool's errand. Preparing for a collapse may make sense, but for that you need to get some cash, and that means having a career. Don't not-try because of a vague prediction.

Sounds like you're working through your self-image problem. You felt you were unattractive then, and now you don't know what to do with female attention. You can't quite parse it. Is it real? Am I really attracting their attention, or is this some kind of joke?

The MGTOW answer is, it doesn't really matter. Women are to be avoided until wealth is established.

If some chick is bothering you, just tell her you can't enter into a relationship right now because you're waiting for the next Star Wars movie.

Title	Conflicted/bothered
Author	Shadowrightknight
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	May 4, 2018 3:58 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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