So here's my story of past " relationships" to explain why.

I'm a 23 year old male. I grew up obese and stayed that way until I was about 20, in fact, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21. After I lost the weight and got fit I thought that for relationships I could still be the nice, funny, lovable guy that I've always been. Boy was I wrong, I ended up more of a white knight and cap save-a-hoe STILL getting absolutely nowhere.

After a few burns, I decided that I was just not gonna be the super nice guy anymore, THAT'S when suddenly my Sexual Market Value went up. I ended up losing my virginity to my 27ish Y/O boss without much effort on my part. Then a few weeks later another girl threw herself at me but then lost her in about a month because I started being the "nice guy" again.

I moved states and started messing around with a 30 Y/O single mother, she didn't want a relationship but still went crazy when I told her i didn't want to continue with her.

I met a girl that I ended up really liking after being friends for a couple of months so of course I went into "nice guy" mode she led me on for two months and when I told her I didn't want to even be friends anymore since she kept leading me on (we would kiss when we hung out but not much and never more than that).

So then I went back into my "uninterested/not caring" mode and within a week I had a fck-buddy/Cm-dumpster. Shocker, right? That's when I really started to notice the trend.

A few months later I started talking to my first FwB from two years ago but we never had sex so it was more perks than benefits. Of course I made the mistake of going back into nice guy mode since I've fallen for this girl since I met her and through the two year gap in which she decided she wasn't gonna talk to me. I ended up pretty much paying for all her vacation to come visit me for a few days from California. We had sex to completion once and the entire time she couldn't give a damn about me or my needs. Yet I'm still a dumbass for not being over her.

I've seen many girls choose a Chad over me and then try to get me to be a sponge forbtheir problems when Chad fucks them over.

I'm leaning over to just becoming a perma Chad myself since statistically, it's the only thing that's worked for me. The only problem is that I know I have a nice guy/white knight complex that wants to get married and have kids. ASAP but frankly the outlook is getting more and more dreadful by the day.

TL;DR: When I'm nice, I can't even get a second look, when I'm a bit of an ass, girls tend to throw themselves on me. I've always wanted a wife and kids, but it's looking more and more unappealing.