Considering SUICIDE , please HELP

Desperate4BetterLife · 2020-04-29T04:50:57+00:00

DM me for my phone number brother. You're considering a permanent solution to a temporary problem. We can work through this together.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2020-04-29T04:51:35+00:00

She’s not a “really good girl.” Your first step is to accept that fact.

kayfab · 2020-04-29T05:09:30+00:00

Honestly this is a great learning experience, now you see how women are.

She is not a good girl they are all like that.

Once you realize that women bring nothing to your life you just stop dating them.

Get out of this relationship, work on yourself, your passions, be happy in life.

I dated so many women like this, ,,,,, all the same.

Never give up, watch motivational video on youtube, they helped me a lot when i was stuck in a root.

bieberblows · 2020-04-29T05:00:20+00:00

She's not a good girl. Why can't you leave her? If she is causing you this much pain then keeping her around will only make it worse.

JustPissYaself · 2020-04-29T05:07:38+00:00

Don't kill yourself over a girl, man. Just break up with her and go through the motions until you're happy again. Trust me, if you break up with her, in a few years time you'll look around and realise that you're happier than you've ever been. I'm a good example of that exact situation.

Desperate4BetterLife · 2020-04-29T05:38:59+00:00

I’m not going to tell you what to do. This is your life. But consider this... don’t set yourself on fire to keep her warm. And no woman is worth dying for. Be strong and stay in the loop here. MGTOW saves lives.

pkarlmann · 2020-04-29T05:25:12+00:00

YOU WILL NOW - NOT TOMORROW, WHICH WILL NEVER COME IF YOU KEEP THIS UP - NOW __CALL__ THE SUICIDE HOTLINE AND GET HELP! NO ONE ON THE INTERNET WILL BE ABLE TO HELP YOU! GET REAL HELP!

This is not a joking matter, brother. You are suicidal. GET BLOOD FUCKING HELP! NOW!

Gn0meRat · 2020-04-29T05:48:55+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I had from the sounds of it, the same type of basketcase in my life 7 years ago. I simply let go.

GoodMan_Gone · 2020-04-29T07:35:53+00:00

Violent mood swings, manipulative.... She is very suspicious for borderline personality disorder. Seems you're sticking your dick in insane, bro.

LongTimeOn · 2020-04-29T08:06:53+00:00

Basically you're describing a childs behaviour, so treat her like one. Show her that bad actions have consequenses and kick her out. This will be ther ONLY language she understands.

Bokulence · 2020-04-29T07:38:58+00:00

I think you suffer from codependency.

And you should first cleat your head what a "good girl" mean to you.

What you say, she is manipulative,unstable, maybe bipolar and narcissist

And seems you allow this. Why?

monk2019 · 2020-04-29T08:21:53+00:00

You need to find your balls and dump her ass.

1, stop caring about her emotions, trying to understand a womans emotions or trying to control them is impossible, do whatever the fuck you want to do and stop caring what she thinks about it. 2. You dont have to give her answers, or well you could say: "i dont love you anymore" will work. Just circle around that. She is fucking up your life, and its a game for her.

lightaniruddhe2000 · 2020-04-29T14:54:12+00:00

You're on the right path, man!

Whulfz0r · 2020-04-29T15:58:05+00:00

Don't have much time I'm at work but focus on yourself as much as you can man. Cut away ALL the bullshit you can even if it hurts you will be better off. I don't know you but you are human, meaning you are strong enough. Learn most of all to change your mind and change your neurons to develop new habits and see yourself as valuable, because that's what you are my friend.

I love you and wish you well.

Desperate4BetterLife · 2020-04-29T16:48:33+00:00

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_ImS_ · 2020-04-30T10:54:19+00:00

OP: She's a good girl.

Also OP: She's manipulative and uses emotionally abusive tactics to get her way.

Bro. She cant be both. Kick her to the curb. Internalise Briffaults Law. I cant give any tips on not being suicidal so i wont say some silly shit like "Just dust yourself off and smile" because its not easy. All i can say is remove the cancer that is your manioulative girlfriend and try to remember that i think your life has value. I dont know if it means anything from someone youve never met but i hope you stay alive. I think you can recover but you have to cut out the cancer

usnraptor · 2020-04-30T17:42:36+00:00

All good advice here. 1. Dump that bitch; she is emotionally abusing you. 2. Start listening to Tom Leykis; his work can be found on YouTube. Do not date women until you have graduated from Tom Leykis' teachings.

datdbui6 · 2020-04-29T05:26:30+00:00

Before anything, I would start with explaining what you've just told us to your parents so they can understand where you're coming from so they won't think you're the bad guy and take her side.

Desperate4BetterLife · 2020-04-29T05:56:25+00:00

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Lancerinmud · 2020-04-29T05:59:46+00:00

Shes a whore and a slut. Leave her.

Desperate4BetterLife · 2020-04-29T06:22:01+00:00

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sidel3 · 2020-04-29T08:47:03+00:00

Face your pain. Death is already guaranteed bro, try putting your energy in life.

BroscienceGuy · 2020-04-29T08:56:16+00:00

What I get from this post is that she has completely overwhelmed you and basically is in full control of you emotionally and mentally.

If you are overwhelmed just put your shoes on and go for a walk outside. Trust me that will benefit you a lot and DON'T take her with you. Do this everyday.

You're attacking yourself mentally and emotionally because of outside influence? You're in full control of yourself bro realize that. Set up boundaries and be strong.

She'll become more tolerable after you are more like.. Yourself. Now you're just a bitch in her image (sorry bro) but do this and when the time is right dispose of that trash

Nunclaf · 2020-04-29T09:01:26+00:00

The situation with my last girlfriend was almost the same. I think it might be harder to dump someone than to be dumped sometimes. What I did is I became very lazy and uncaring so she eventually became less and less attracted to me and she finally broke up with me. I had regret for about a year I also thank about suicide sometimes but now my life is way better.

Please don't mind my poor English it's not my native language.

lightaniruddhe2000 · 2020-04-29T09:14:52+00:00

Killing yourself over one fucked-up girl? Bad decision, brother! From what you've described, that self-centered lass does not give a shit about your feelings...let alone appreciate her relationship with you!

I know such toxic women...I've dated a few, but I've always been careful enough to break it off as soon as I saw a red flag! If there's anything I've learnt, it's that people DO NOT change...since she's behaving like a bloodsucking devil, you need pull that leech off your life and pull yourself together.

You absolutely don't need to take the rap for shattering her so-called "dreams"...you might kept your promises, had she not started acting like a total bitch!

You're young, you're healthy (I presume!)...you can use your capabilities to make yourself happy. Believe me...once you're off to travel the world after saving up your hard-earned money...such relationshits won't be worth a dime to you! .

Don't do this to yourself... there's lot more to you than your relationship!✌️

HonkHonkBro · 2020-04-29T09:37:15+00:00

Like many other guys said, no need for a permanent solution over her. It may be hard, but if she is that bad, you need to let her go. If you have to quarintine together, try to indicate your area as separate from hers. That or try to spend time anywhere else. Also like many here will advise, forget her and focus on making money and getting into a passion. Once you have that let women come to the successful you instead of running after them. If none are worth it at that point, which is likely, so be it! Their loss not yours! Keep this in mind, say it to yourself: Women are NOT nessacery. Dating isn't either. Marriage the same. Kids the same. If you do non of these, it's your free will to do so. Few will throw a decent girl at you begging to take her. They will though, bug you to do so even if it's painful and not to your benefit. I would know. My older sister critisized me constantly for the second ex and one of the only girlfriends I had in 24 years. I asked her though, if she wants me to have a significant other, to then do the work for me, as she ofc had at least 4 boyfriends before and now a husband. Of course she refused and told me I had to do it myself, which was another red pill to me that it was my own free will and hard work that would get women or not. Nobody will do the work cor you even though they are the ones who often want it more so the solution? Give em the finger. GYOW.

GonzoNoseBear · 2020-04-29T10:26:10+00:00

As one commenter has rightly pointed out, this seems very much like borderline personality disorder behaviour. I was with 2 girls of this kind, and they brought me to the brink of suicide. Your inability to leave this person reminds me of my own, you also seem to have codependency issues. Please consider seeking therapy, otherwise you are prone to attract the same kind of girls again. And please, get out of this situation. I know it is terribly hard to leave this seemingly helpless and vulnerable person, but for your own sake, you have to do it.

Shimakaze4 · 2020-04-29T10:30:54+00:00

Don't do anything silly like harming yourself. Don't hurt yourself over a woman, it is not worth it. You gotta dump her right now. You are living at your parents house so you have the advantage, you have friendly family members there to help you. Can you kick her out and get her back to her mothers tomorrow? If so, tell her this. After you break up with her, don't be alone with her at all, don't even be alone with her when you tell her to get lost. Don't engage her, don't buy into her emotional blackmail which will follow. Be prepared for her to change her tune instantly, she will go all sooky sweet, trying to stop you leaving. Be strong, tell her that it's over and she needs to leave. If you can't get rid of her while in lock down, try not to engage her in her bullshit, if she starts acting up, simply ignore her. Then when she's away at her mothers, ghost her.

Mate, you're worth more than her. Don't put up with her crap one instant longer. You are the prize, remember that.

themenacehimself · 2020-04-29T10:33:36+00:00

My most recent ex gf was exactly like this. To the tee. I put my foot down on it and said that I need time apart from her. She realized that this time apart would make me realize that I didn’t want to be with her. I even admitted to her that I was happier when she wasn’t around. Much more peaceful. I broke it off, she claims that I broke her heart. I told her that she broke my heart once I realized that I was only in love with the fantasy I saw of her. Once I started to realize who she actually was and how she actually behaved and hung out with I couldn’t help but begin to resent her. She started to figure out that I couldn’t stand her and was using her for sex once I lost interest in her personality and tried to turn it in her favor. I said fuck that and didn’t talk to her for a few weeks. I didnt miss her. I rediscovered myself. I missed myself.

I officially put it to rest, explaining to her that she made me absolutely miserable and that I was staying with her because I thought it was the right thing to do. When I look back on all of her manipulative behavior that made me suicidal and question my own worth I can’t help but think “fuck that bitch, I’m happy she’s gone” and hate myself slightly for dragging it on. Sometimes I miss the beginning stages, that rose covered frame I put her in. How interesting and different I thought she was. Damn, was I stupid.

TLDR: You’re gonna miss that toxic ass female for a while but you need to do what is best for your sanity and future. Dump her, rip that bandaid off, pursue your happiness. She is a child, she is not your problem, wish her luck. She will survive.

Gotuxxx44 · 2020-04-29T10:44:22+00:00

If you have nothing to live for in this big world then go sun , take the leap see you in the other end , and if you have anything to live for shut the hell up and get on with your life many people have worst , you dont live in a war zone

ml91d · 2020-04-29T11:47:11+00:00

Glad I saw this thread. I had an almost exact situation 3 years ago and let me tell you what you need to hear.

I was in a 5 year relationship, which ended at 1 and a half years, the rest of the relationship was caretaking and bending to their manipulative will.

I tolerated it for two reasons. 1. I did alot of damage to my life because of them and their needs, so the investment factor was high in my head. 2. I do have a soft spot for people who need help and have potential.

Despite my sacrifice. She broke up with me over me choosing to eat my first meal of that day at 8pm after spending the rest of the day calming down and supporting her. During me getting said meal, she spammed my phone for support (highly sensitive, would resort to suicide over the tiniest issue) and flipped her shit over me not being overly supportive because I was fucking drained and hungry.

Point to realise here is, they will drain you until you're no use to them. Your previous actions mean fuck all. The sooner it ends, the less you lose. She will eventually leave, as you're starting to crack, so you need to get out for your own wellbeing.

As for the will to live, understand this shit situation will only get better once she's out of your life and you restore the energy drained and damage she's caused. Stay strong brother.

wev96 · 2020-04-29T13:01:39+00:00

Looking at your age the one bit of advice i'll add to the pile here is don't let yourself get dragged back in.

You seem to be pushed to the point where breaking up will feel like you did something wrong or made a mistake. (Which is instantly recognizable as clearly not the case reading through the case from the outside).

If you need to break up over text or whatever method do it to get it done and don't look back for at least a couple months, she will just screw with your head when you need the time to clear your head. And that is something you get done by not talking to her and working on other parts of your life in the mean time. Your internal good sense will slowly come back naturally when your are out of that, for lack of a better word "toxic"situation.

Just don't beat yourself up over the time it may take to get to feeling 100%.

Desperate4BetterLife · 2020-04-29T13:04:53+00:00

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Desperate4BetterLife · 2020-04-29T14:50:22+00:00

Thanks a lot to everybody taking the time to write!

Title	Considering SUICIDE , please HELP
Author	Desperate4BetterLife
Upvotes	22
Comments	90
Date	April 29, 2020 4:48 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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