Does anyone else find it mentally exhausting to hide their MGTOW identity in public?

jkarovskaya · 2018-06-14T02:31:24+00:00

One place I worked I just got sick of the questions about girlfriends, so I found a picture of an attractive woman from New Zealand, printed, framed, and put that on my desk

Problem solved, and after a few days of co-workers asking nosy stupid questions about my "long distance" relationship which I refused to give any detail on, they never mentioned it again. Word spreads quickly among women in an office environment, so they left me alone.

Game won

andreas-mgtow · 2018-06-14T02:11:39+00:00

You know that feeling of angst when you see BP Men about to go off a cliff and get ripped off by women, and you wish you had said something to warn them?

Me neither.

migmxke · 2018-06-14T02:05:07+00:00

No. Just play the actor and lower your ego. Be adaptive like a chameleon

ramfex21 · 2018-06-14T02:14:37+00:00

Keep in to yourself. Let people guess what sort of lifestyle you have. . “I’m happy being single, not really looking for anything serious right now”. That’s all you gotta say. BP men will end up envying you. If you say “I’m MGTOW” people might think your crazy.

drevfever · 2018-06-14T02:16:09+00:00

Wear a wedding ring.

mongolian_usa · 2018-06-14T02:14:47+00:00

no, not at all. I don't advertise nor do I hide

Edit: typo of not instead of nor.

drqxx · 2018-06-14T02:27:05+00:00

First off congratulations on getting ready to fire in a decade that's impressive.

Who cares just tell them women aren't your thing.

Watchingcluturefade · 2018-06-14T06:13:15+00:00

I don't.

But just remember Law #4: Always say less than necessary.

Unless you are looking to get in a violent confrontation or wish to just be yelled at for a while for a laugh, just speak your point and be done with it. Otherwise it simply isn't worth the effort to speak.

But I cannot just be a different person as I am a very socially present person and am out and about too much to let other peoples thoughts ruin my lifestyle.

SnackSquadTB · 2018-06-14T03:42:26+00:00

Be silent and only talk about work. Leave your life in the dark.

But that's only if your fine being completely alone like I am. (I work better when I'm the only one around for some odd reason.)

micromuffinman · 2018-06-14T03:44:43+00:00

I'm a straight forward asshole, no need to hide anything. If they want to come at you with assumptions, murder them with logic. Remember, if you make an assumption, you make an ass out of you and me; there is always two asses to an argument, just be the smart one.

hazmigaming · 2018-06-14T06:21:07+00:00

I am one of those people who are kind of tired hiding my mgtow identity in public. Have to socially interact with blue pill and tradcon everyday .i also thinks that maybe i am only mgtow in my whole city here or maybe whole state.

bluepiller555 · 2018-06-14T07:00:26+00:00

Just tell them you're MGTOW and you only bang hookers. They'll never hassle you again.

2018-06-14T02:51:50+00:00

honestly, no one at work has ever asked me. in my personal life I sing the praises of single life. I get the feeling that most people are jealous.

DangZagnut · 2018-06-14T03:10:28+00:00

So lie. who cares?

OptionsReprimanded · 2018-06-14T03:46:09+00:00

You don’t have to live two lives. Be a man and tell it like it is. WTF are we women waiting for society to “figure it out”? Tell them marriage isn’t for you because of divorce rape. They can’t argue with that. And if they say well you don’t have to marry talk about child support. Tell them that a man has more to lose than to gain.

Ain’t no one going to melt or get cancer if you told them.

squidracer · 2018-06-14T05:03:13+00:00

No, I'm pretty open about my bacholor status and make it very clear that i have no interest in ever getting married. Just don't use the term mgtow

dontrelapsem8 · 2018-06-14T05:19:04+00:00

God I would love to be in your position.

I'm 20 and I would just love to see the faces of them approach me just to deny them.

The absolute thought of watching them all dive into the wall is nothing short of amazing

UnimatrixBinary · 2018-06-14T05:55:02+00:00

I usually don't talk with people unless we have specific business, and strictly business.

strangerthing7 · 2018-06-14T07:25:04+00:00

Hide it? I wear it on my sleeve.

jonathino001 · 2018-06-14T08:45:15+00:00

I've been telling people I have no interest in being in a relationship since long before I even knew what MGTOW was. People find it a bit weird but that's about it. As long as you don't call yourself "MGTOW" it really doesn't cause any trouble.

ExactBrake · 2018-06-14T12:09:41+00:00

Just say you pay whores on your time off. Nobody will ask you about it again lmao.

DTreatz · 2018-06-14T12:28:49+00:00

Law 38: Think as you like, but behave like others.

IAM_DISGUSTING · 2018-06-14T16:14:32+00:00

I have a question for the MGTOW men:

Is it not considered safe by you to be in a relationship with a woman who does not want kids, has her own career, and doesn't care much to be "legally" married? Idk, I heard there is more and more of those people on both sides of the coin.

terminator612 · 2018-06-14T03:44:54+00:00

Nope

SoundMGTOW789 · 2018-06-14T04:05:43+00:00

I hide my MGTOW persona from the public, I double hide

SpinPlates · 2018-06-14T10:07:47+00:00

"Just havent found a girl worth my time yet"

If they hamster into a "well you better hurry arguement" quickly remind them that men's biological clock ticks much, much slower.

fox-martin · 2018-06-14T12:05:51+00:00

When someone asks, pretend that person is hitting on you and say something like:

"Sorry, I don't think of you in that way."

If it's a man you can say,

"Sorry, I'm not into dudes."

They soon stop asking.

Wolfoflulzstreet · 2018-06-14T14:15:41+00:00

No. I feel like it’s some type of zen meditation or something. Take the sex/relationship factor out of your personal equation and the world is your oyster free from any seeking of approval or acquiescence for positive female attention.

In short: fuck ‘em. Go old school. Pretend it’s a mans world. Just own it and truly go your own way.

badaboomxx · 2018-06-14T14:19:51+00:00

But why? if you go your own way, you won't be care what other people thing of you.

watain218 · 2018-06-14T14:48:31+00:00

my family know that I'm single by choice but don't know about MGTOW, I casually slip a redpill truth or two everytime they bring it up for instance saying most college girls are sluts and I don't want a woman with mileage. my family is pretty trad so they are totally on board with that. everyone else gets vague answers that avoid the question since its none of their business.

maggot_brain79 · 2018-06-14T16:22:11+00:00

I personally don't hide it or play charades with people. No, I don't go shouting red pill shit and MGTOW phrases from the rooftop or run around acting like some vegan crossfit gluten free fuck, blabbing about it to everyone and everything that has a pair of ears.

But if people broach the subject with me and ask if I'm in a relationship or what my plans are in regards to dating/relationships, I'm honest and straight-forward with them. I tell them I've had bad experiences in the past and I no longer have any interest in dating or a relationship. I get a couple odd glances, especially from women I talk to, but for the most part people really don't give a fuck. Some men I've spoken to have even commiserated with me, brought up MGTOW of their own volition, or have empathized with me because they're married and want to get the hell out.

So, no, I don't go around yelling MGTOW and blabbering about gender-relations, but I don't play charades or act. If somebody really pushes it or gets offended, I either don't give a shit and move on or I just say I haven't found anyone worth my time yet and I'm too busy to take on a relationship. Much like I'm too busy to have a dog and it wouldn't be fair to the dog, even if shit were normal and not all fucked up like it is now, I wouldn't have time to deal with it. Relationships can be pretty fucking herculean, especially in the modern day when women expect the fuckin' moon and stars to be hung for them. The time consumption, the effort, the drama, the arguments and the stress and the constant distraction from more important matters. Not worth it to me, even if things were better in terms of the dating scene. I have very little interest in sex so that's not even a motivator for me.

2018-06-14T16:44:57+00:00

I tell everyone at work that I prefer the single life, I am a confirmed bachelor, I don't want a girlfriend, and I do whatever I want to do. There's no need to drop the MGTOW on them.

alienSpaceMuffin · 2018-06-14T21:55:11+00:00

Sometimes, like when i had class with my feminist teacher, hearing her vomit all that bullshit made my blood boil, but i had to stay quiet. She would shame in front of all class even girls that would opse her way of though and bring arguments against her arguments... So...

2018-06-14T23:29:09+00:00

you care too much about how people view you lmao pussy

dblink · 2018-06-15T01:44:20+00:00

I had a girlfriend for 7.5 years before I broke up with her because she wouldn't accept a treatment plan that her therapist laid out for her to follow. I gave 110% of my energy to try and help her to get over her mental issues, including paying 100+ USD a week for her to go to therapy (she was unwilling to use her insurance in case her parents found out (HUGE RED FLAG)) and she wouldn't even take her therapist's advice to start medication. It was too much to handle trying to keep up with her mental state when she wouldn't even accept professional help (which I paid 100+ a week for her to atttend) and rejected the option of taking anti depression medication.

Even with all I provided to her she thought she was getter better when in fact it was driving us apart. After I broke up with her she had the nerve to write a 3 page letter about why I should still love and stay with her despite the issues.

I had 1 rule, I would pay out of pocket for your therapy if you did whatever the therapist suggested. She ignored the request for medication and didn't change her approach in any way whatsoever, and then was SHOCKED that I broke up our relation "with no warning according to her" after 7.5 years together. It was exhausting trying to pretend I could help her, when she couldn't even follow professional advice, and thought I was in the wrong for ending it "without any warning" (I think telling her she needs therapy and I'll pay for it is a pretty obvious sign).

In the end I got her to move out but she still acted like I was in the wrong and destroyed a lot of my personal items when she moved out. (as an aside she had "people" help her move out of the apartment but wouldn't tell me woe. She thought she was being sneaky but I know the orbiters she had were the ones that helped her, including a beta cuck male that caused multiple fights before we broke up.)

TL;DR: AWALT, no matter how long you've been together.

Bonus: My current girlfriend was pissed I wouldn't buy her alcohol after I told her she had an alcoholic problem after saying she needs atleast a bottle of wine each day until I start my new job on the 18th. You know what her response was? "Fine I'll go find some guy to buy me free drinks at the bar" insinuating she would flirt with others just to get what she wants.

She's now involuntarily committed to a veteran's psych ward at the VA and still thinks what I did was wrong. I'm tired of answering her phone calls each day even though doctors won't even let her leave because she's in a state where she might kill herself. No matter what we talk about it always reverts to the time I tried to determine if I was bi-sexual or not (I'm not, but people have told me my whole life how gay and feminine I am so I thought fuck it, why not see if I'm attracted to guys). I found out I'm not turned on by males in person and still am heterosexual but she won't accept anything but me being bi-sexual and then insults me daily about it (even though she's the one who was involuntary committed to a psych ward).

TL;DR Women only believe what they think, and won't trust anything a man says if it goes against their narrative.

Title	Does anyone else find it mentally exhausting to hide their MGTOW identity in public?
Author	SerialMansplainer
Upvotes	72
Comments	66
Date	June 14, 2018 1:58 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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