hey. i need some advise about how to handle my family. i have no one to talk to so i though i will give it a try and ask you guys. i will try to be as short as possible. i know that whole thing is ridiculous but i need another opinion how to handle them. and english is not my first language so don't be so hard on my grammar. i'm 27 and live in west europe, raised by a single mother, had my first job at 14 for a construction site company, just got a most basic education because my mother don't knew what other options i had, got polite kicktout at home at 17 and since than i live alone, single for 7 years, work for about six years in a factory and make some good amount of money, spend my free time mostly at the gym, gardening and watching movies. in my childhood and my teenage years i spend most of my time alone, alone outside or playing videogames at home. i had no real guidance and no one to talk to. had some rough years as a child/ teen and thing did not get better when i had my first real relationship, first job and so on. i had nearly no social skills until 22 and had serious trouble connecting with other people especially with women.  only advise i got was, " ... just be nice."  as far as i can tell im quite good looking (get approcged quite often by women). i was born as a nice guy got redpilled a few years ago and since than I'm on monkmode. but i don't know how to handle my family, i work nearly everyday, have just one weekend free of work in a month and once monday to friday. i have to work one week on nightshift every month. so i don't have so much time for myself. but although that i have nearly no time for myself i try to hit the gym (kickboxing and gymnastics, was quite obsessed with martial arts movies as a kid, of course my family had no interest in guiding my in that direction) as often as possible, mostly five times in a week. my family has no sympathy for me, and my lifestyle they try to shame me all the time because i have no time for them. but that thing is that we are not really close to each other emotionally. my mother came in her mid 20s from east europe and raised my as single mother (gave birth with 19, never met my father, she has no friends and no hobbys) a few years later she gave birth to my half brother (his dad spend a few years on the weekends with him and than he cut all contact, his father beat my mother up a few times very bad in front of me what was really traumatic, he's blue pill as fuck, trying to make everything perfect, spend four years promoting for a new job that he now hates because he wanted to start a family with his now ex girlfriend, but at least he's makes a good amount of money) and another few years later she gave birth to my half sister (spoiled brat, social media obsessed, overweight, poor health and bad personality) married that guy (blue pill guy, cubby, no hobbys, beat me up a few times as a kid but now his very polite and afraid because he knows that i could beat him up very bad if i want to, spend no time with me as a kid, could not even show me how to shave as a teen but at least he was a good provider for us), he adopted us two and since than we live that "perfect family" thing. they want to spend as much time as possible together (basically just eating together, watch tv and talk about superficial stuff). everyone and especially my brother is shaming me every two weeks or so for not spending time with my family, of course my sister is shaming me to because "everyone wants to spend time together". i don't know what to do. i don't want to be mean to them they are quite ok but i don't want to spend all my free time on them just to watch tv and talk about stupid stuff. but they don't get it, i tried to explain why i have no time and why i want to spend my time alone at least ten times last year. and still they don't get it. of course i'm really angry but i want no drama but i don't know how to handle this situation.  and another thing is that i'm stuck in a blue collar work that i will never leave because my bad education i got as a child. my half brother and my half sister on the other hand had the chance to get a really good life, my brother has a good paid job he will never loose, where he has nothing to do and my sister is now studying and will get a even better job when she's done. and here i am. have no real chance to get a good life, i'm not poor but i will never have such a good life like them and this is driving me nuts. no matter what i will do i will never leave my shitty job. just because my parents especially my mother had no interest in my future. what's your advice for me? you guy's are the only people that will understand me and i'm thankful for every answer. thank you