How do I stop feeling so alone?

Teflon0819 · 2017-08-22T11:05:33+00:00

Learn to be alright with being alone.

Emotional dependence on others is like taking a drug. Stop doing it and the cravings for it will eventually fade.

There's nothing wrong with friendships or relationships, just don't become dependent on them.

mrp_1844 · 2017-08-22T10:41:02+00:00

Get a dog. Or two.

shellbroth · 2017-08-22T13:05:07+00:00

With time we tend to forget the bad and only remember the good. Try doing the opposite, you won't miss her anymore.

Jonlife · 2017-08-22T11:15:08+00:00

Oh man, you're still in your blue pill phase. You haven't even crossed the red pill rage phase yet.

Did you end it with her? If so, keep it that way. Is she still trying to contact you with nonchalant texts saying "hi, what you up to..blah blah blah."?

Why do you miss her? Do you not have enough hobbies in your life to keep thinking that sitting around all weekend with her watching Netflix is better spent?

You still sound like you're letting your hormones take control over making rational decisions. Women are a dime a dozen. Most guys will go back to these types of chicks because they're lazy and don't want to have to go searching for new pussy.

Well, since you're in the mgtow sub, I've got fantastic news for you in that you don't ever need to go looking for pussy again. Get an escort, or go to a brothel with sex dolls.

If you're still on the fence allow me to tell you to pull your head out of your ass (your closest friends won't tell this to you because they're blue pill Simps as well) and go read more of the horror stories on here of men getting financially DESTROYED by women. Yes, it can and it will happen to you if you still think that hanging out with them is harmless. It isn't. You either dodged a bullet or she's still looking for a clear shot waiting to pull the trigger.

ImmortanV8 · 2017-08-22T11:16:11+00:00

This feeling only persists if the red pill is not fully digested. Otherwise you would accept that we are living alone, for ourselfs. Women do not accompany us, they give us that drug fix to forget about this reality of loneliness. You cant crawl back into that womb where you came out, so stop searching for it in women.

Maybe the opposite helps: accepting the reality of life, which is death, the only true reality we know and posses in us while living. Accepting death will set you free. You die every day and ask yourself: what have you done yesterday that was worth it? You have to exist for yourself by yourself in regards of happiness in life. No women can give you that feeling, you can only unearth it from within you. Women are actually an impediment in achieving self sustainability. Once you reach that you will not longer need women for your felicity, but they will run after you as you have what she craves for

MyHearse · 2017-08-22T12:03:59+00:00

Start your New Game + on Dark Souls.

DangZagnut · 2017-08-22T13:32:15+00:00

Honestly I miss my girlfriend, I said I didn't want anything long term but I had a great time with her and I miss that.

What precisely are you missing? I mean, stop and think about what you were missing, because it wasn't inherently about her.

frankmarlowe · 2017-08-23T11:47:25+00:00

It's kind of a delicate balancing act.

One the one hand, we are social creatures. No way getting around that. It's natural to want companionship and I believe it's necessary too for a healthy and happy life (or at least a content one). As shit as most people are, they can still prove useful, whether it's by learning harsh lessons from their fuck-ups or shortcomings, or by simply being a shoulder to lean on in rough times. So by all means, seek out and foster relationships. Men or women. But make sure they're worthy. And always be careful. [insert cliche about all your eggs in one basket here]

One the other hand, in some ways we are always alone, and always will be. No one will ever be able to read your thoughts or truly feel what you feel, no matter how masterful a wordsmith you might be. This is where it helps to learn to tolerate solitude and make the most of it, if you can't outright learn to enjoy it. I understand why some don't ever enjoy it. Put a man in a room with only himself as company, and unfortunately most men find they hate that company most of all. So don't concern yourself so much with quantity of people, but quality of people. Even some women can make damn fine friends, surprisingly enough. Just don't fool yourself into believing any dreams about unicorns or NAWALTs, and always treat them the same as you'd treat any random stranger you have no interest sticking your dick in. Most of all, never be afraid to walk away from anyone that no longer grows you, serves you, or betters you as a person. And if you must walk away, try not to do so out of hatred or bitterness, do it because you must. Because for all the tired aphorisms about negativity, that shit really is a poison and it will fucking eat you alive if you let it. No one is worth that level of suffering and anguish and rage. Never forget the good times or the bad, remember and cherish everything they were able to teach or give you.

As for where to find new friends, I am assuming you mean IRL and not on the net. This one requires putting yourself in uncomfortable situations. I personally recommend finding a hobby IRL, or a way to take whatever hobbies you have IRL. Met some decent people at Magic: The Gathering tournaments at local game shops. Conventions are another way I made friends. Sometimes you get lucky with co-workers. Try volunteer work, if you have a charitable nature. Or church/mosque/temple events, if you're the religious sort.

Just remember, whether you have plentiful friends, a couple friends, or none; no matter where you go, or what you do, ultimately you only have yourself to rely on. Once you make your peace with that, then you are free to grow as much as you can.

I wish you luck on your path, brother.

slyn69 · 2017-08-22T10:31:55+00:00

get a new one.

MyLittlePonyofDoom · 2017-08-22T11:31:10+00:00

Get a vasectomy before getting another GF. 99% of guys here will tell you to Mgtow but I'll say the opposite because you need to experience female nature firsthand than read it here. At this stage you need to minimise the risk of having an 18 year ball and chain fucking up your life.

SirWallaceII · 2017-08-22T13:41:45+00:00

listen, Romeo, don't be such a homo.

Izzenw · 2017-08-22T14:26:50+00:00

Get addicted into something.

I for myself, in addicted into motorcycles and fucking escorts.

This is what keeps me going, enduring my white collar job, the bullshit at my MBA, my carreer, this shitty life at South America and so on.

I can endure a full day of bullshit knowing that I will ride my bike, drink some whisky and fucking some escorts.

mdcrubengonza · 2017-08-22T14:29:26+00:00

Call her back.

knightwhosaysneet · 2017-08-22T22:40:25+00:00

Just Fap and you will feel better.

Massgumption · 2017-08-23T04:27:02+00:00

Oxytocin withdrawal is what you're going through, read something like Power of Now or do mushrooms if you can...will sort you out.

Title	How do I stop feeling so alone?
Author	mma13579
Upvotes	11
Comments	25
Date	August 22, 2017 10:10 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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