How do y'all blend in?

DangZagnut · 2020-03-13T23:00:57+00:00

I mock them and laugh at their failed lives indirectly by saying how awesome my life is by comparison.

Still married eh? I just got back from the super bowl.

Wife had the flu? Bummer. Well I’m off to Vegas, I’ll bring you back a shot glass.

Shimakaze4 · 2020-03-13T23:29:23+00:00

I don't fit in with most of society and I've stopped trying. It usually prods my friends, especially in my sports club to ask questions. They ask me a lot of questions especially about women, my past relationships etc, I've mostly stopped hiding that I'm MGTOW, I've even explained it to a few, some didn't appreciate it, others want to try and set me up with someone, others just think I'm a bit strange and leave it at that. In a work situation, I hide it more effectively. With the boys, I can get away with talking a bit how we speak here about women.

DontNeedMuchMoney · 2020-03-13T22:59:30+00:00

I accidentally say things, I don't like to speak my mind to much as I know we've all got different opinions and they're basically meaningless so it's useless to argue. Just say yeah and smile and chill the fuck out.

That said, I got in an argument defending Harvey Weinstein the other day - Probably not the best idea.

ekudram · 2020-03-14T07:04:37+00:00

Most of the men secretly envy the MGTOW man.

I am a little lucky(?) because of such a shitty marriage and then getting divorce raped into poverty my family understands why I wont remarry.
I hide any wealth I have behind Walmart clothing.
I do have some nice expensive hobbies with astro-photography and computers.

I pay for everything in cash. The big shockers are things like I live in a travel trailer. At an RV park with internet. But my life style is cheap and allows me to move around quickly. If I get bored where I live I just move.

I also stopped giving a fuck about what people though of me. No guilt for how I live.

ChivalricChuck · 2020-03-13T23:03:47+00:00

So you're an autist, welcome to the club.

stratusfactionfan · 2020-03-14T02:10:33+00:00

You are the one to laugh at them not the opposite. They have to ask or say something before going into their car. Do you?

rcd2fzimag3 · 2020-03-14T05:22:36+00:00

Keep yourself occupied with your work or hobby when you are in public. I don't even look at anyone, don't care how beautiful that girl is, AWALT.

R3dd1tSuux · 2020-03-14T06:26:41+00:00

Here an idea - see yourself as a free man and recognize the majority of people in the world following the script ('They Live') as slaves or jailers.

It doesn't have to be exhausting unless you have some frustration about things being different than as they are. Or if you still wish to 'fit in the life script' in some way? It's okay if it's partially true - but it's a sign you are still working through some aspects of Plato's Cave. There's a lot there to work through.

Some wise person once said 'the cause of all suffering is craving. Desire things you do not have and suffering will follow. Realize this and peace will be yours. Suffering will disappear and contentment will reign.'

You are free. Most people are not and either crave being enslaved or wish to enslave others. See the game as it is, and realize you are OUTSIDE of the structure. Yes, that can be alienating, but it doesn't have to be frustrating if you accept interactions as the are, for what they are.

If something or someone doesn't serve a mutual benefit, you walk away.

You don't have to fake anything - you can truly be yourself. But that's YOUR choice, my brother.

You do you, let them be who they are, and your inner peace will resurface no matter where you are or who you're with.

lone_nordic_wolf · 2020-03-14T09:05:07+00:00

Nature typically rejects that which goes against it, the different, and tries to kill it... unless the ecology changes rapidly enough (e.g. asteroid hits) where the organism has conditions in favor of it and becomes more successful than the old.

Social interactions follow that pattern, and it’s hard to deny the social ecology is changing a lot. The asteroid is hitting.

Personally, I’ve learned to generally ignore what people think, but it’s taken decades to get to that state. I don’t “blend in” and people generally know I am on my own path. I just don’t internalize much of what is said and have my mental “scripts” on how to respond to certain things in certain contexts. Like when some woman colleague gets casual at a happy hour and has the audacity to get personal and say something judgmental like “I hope you find someone.” I have ways to respond to that, if I choose to acknowledge it. One becomes numb after a while and you’re only as upset as you allow yourself to be. There will always be that element, and it’s really not hard to be above it.

I’m still a very social person personally and professionally. At work I’m generally well known and approachable. So it’s not like I’m anti-social at all. It comes down to knowing your audience and being situationally aware. Now, yes, the company has become “woke” just like others, and while it being shoved in my face is mildly annoying, I focus on the work. During “woke events” on-site, I typically schedule meetings with colleagues off-site and just use the time productively like I didn’t have a choice.

Alinitysdog · 2020-03-14T16:22:15+00:00

I've stopped blending in. I'm a Lion in a torn rabbit suit. So people knows what's up with me before they even know my name.

Just watch where you step in my territory.

LuigiC173 · 2020-03-14T01:45:52+00:00

be honest in my opinion but be respectful, this is a soft soft world, you can't just let her rip so to speak. If it arises, in a nutshell I summarize that I dated like anyone else, overall it was an experience that was negative more so than positive, and I have chosen to remove that aspect from my life. I am happier overall by myself than when with someone.

Texian_Fusilier · 2020-03-14T04:22:50+00:00

Only the gun guys get it. Everything I did, that wasnt trying to get laid, at which, i gave little effort. revolvec around getting a luger until I did. Then NVGs, thermals, project after project. Today I turned down a long distance relationship with a 🇰🇷 girl. That and I throw ghosting lines. No long distance. Or whatever other standards

Title	How do y'all blend in?
Author	Head-Mulberry
Upvotes	30
Comments	16
Date	March 13, 2020 10:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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