How do you learn, to ask/demand selfish things?

victor_knight · 2016-05-30T10:12:07+00:00

I thought of all the things I had been taught throughout my life and realized that, by and large, they had little to do with things that would actually make me happy, but rather how I could serve others... in particular women and children. One day, I came across a book by a very old man. Never mind the title. I browsed through it and found a passage where he explained that society will lie to men. They will lie because "they need your strength". That convinced me what was really going on and since then, I really have no qualms about being "selfish".

nightshadez94 · 2016-05-30T15:09:04+00:00

My parents kept trying to raise me to be a "nice guy". Never worked, I was always the problem child so selfishness is second nature to me. Adopting an indifferent mentality helps, you shouldn't care how people perceive your actions. Fight back at any shaming attempts (you're selfish!) by "agreeing and amplifying."

The people who shame others get so used to hearing self-justifications that it bewilders them when you take a different approach.

I've had people coining me "soulless" for that and some guys admitting their envy of me because of it.

good_man_gone · 2016-05-30T09:24:48+00:00

I have a small group of friends, or rather aquintances because they dont behave like real friends, at my summer vacation/work spot I spent 3-4 months at yearly.

I often feel used because for me its normal to help people and I want friends to be happy when I'm around them. And back in the city there is a tiny handful of people who behave in that way and recipocrate.

Anyway what I found helpful if you dont want to cut certain people off completely is simply telling them what bothers you and if they have any respect for your well being they will adjust their behaviour. However if you dont make selfish demands from time to time and prove to people that you can, without any problem, do your own thing without them you will get walked over a lot. You have to establish your role in the pack by virtue and not by force. Thats my approach anyway.

There is a loudmouth who is really full of himself within above mentioned group. He thinks hes the alpha. From time to time I put him in his place by sometimes calmly argumenting and sometimes forcefully/loudly speaking my mind. Only idiots are attracted to narcissists. Real respect comes from setting a positive example and leading people to higher levels of consciousness so their lives can become better.

Oh and please learn to say no if you havent already. Carry on soldier ;)

LanceMH · 2016-05-31T01:20:14+00:00

Don't be a demanding person in general. Leave that up to the women. In almost any situation you're in with others add value to the place. Most people when they recognize you're an asset will respond accordingly. If you're surrounded by people that make demands of you but offer zero reciprocity, it's a toxic environment. Try to get away from those people and your stress level will go down.

Title	How do you learn, to ask/demand selfish things?
Author	SasioOne
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	May 30, 2016 4:54 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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