How often do you feel lonely?

TheRiseAndFall · 2020-10-08T05:13:13+00:00

I am lucky to be an introvert. My favorite person to spend time with is myself. It is rare that I feel lonely. More often I feel restless, in which case I go for a drive or work out or play an engaging video game.

With the shutdown many people have been heavily affected by lack of interpersonal contact. But for me little has changed. At work we still have plenty of meetings and easy communication via instant messenger. My work friends and I chat using the video meeting services work provides on a nearly daily basis, so it does not feel that different. At the end of the day I need to have personal time to recharge and I am getting it all the same.

Back in college I made the mistake of getting roommates and living with three of my friends. After six months I could barely stand them. I don't think I would be happy having a live-in companion. For me marriage would only work if we could see each other two to three times a week for a few hours and then I could go home to read, enjoy my podcasts and tinker with my cars.

If you do feel lonely by yourself I would encourage you to spend time alone without distractions. Don't watch tv or play video games. Don't even listen to music. Listen to your inner mind. If you don't like it then it's on you to change that. Everyone in your life is temporary but you are stuck with yourself as a permanent companion.

n0t__t0day · 2020-10-08T04:40:30+00:00

I have so much stuff to do, no idea what loneliness is.

KaitouNala · 2020-10-08T07:15:55+00:00

I was bullied for most of my childhood, pretty harshly so.

Abusive mother at home, first thought of suicide around the age of 11 because between home and school I had nowhere safe to be.

Quickly learned that I don't like "people"

I have been a friend to many throughout my life but I have had very few friends.

Basically I socialize with my coworkers during down times but primarily i'm more happy keeping to myself by myself.

Also didn't help that I am a massive geek/nerd and its only within the last 10ish years that its become "cool" / ok to be one, honestly though kind of wish it had stayed the way it was before.

All these normies infecting what used to be MY hobbies and demanding changes to them to make them "More PC" is ruining everything.

Take a look and D&D, orcs are now racist because the flavor text descriptor for them makes orcs "fantasy black people" can we take a moment to let that sink in, in a fake/fantasy world, that has humans, who may also actually be black, orcs are black people because they are generally violent and only can free themselves from said nature if raised right or some bullshit.

Fuck these virtue signaling fake fans/actual racists. YOU are the racist if you're the one drawing that parallel.

silly_birb · 2020-10-08T06:52:28+00:00

I got fed up with useless social interactions. Most people talk about things they saw on socials.

MuchIndependence · 2020-10-08T04:29:19+00:00

I'm the same way, only really need 4-6 hours of social contact in a week but I can tolerate much more if it's just among men and we're doing something fun or useful.

Being productive is like crack for a healthy man, and socializing is usually antithetical to getting shit done. I guess that's why 99% of women never amount to anything if they don't have a man carrying them from goal to goal.

FanofLemmy · 2020-10-08T11:51:46+00:00

Seems like you miss what you had, but once you go back to it, you'll start to get annoyed again.

I've never felt lonely unless I was a beta bitch pinning after a woman.

Now, I am fully content and happy doing nothing, or everything, by myself.

I only feel lonely when I am in a relationship.

m1ghty_b4g · 2020-10-08T04:58:07+00:00

Not often but when I feel lonely a simple conversation even with the person in the gas station is enough for me.

Bkclaims · 2020-10-08T06:45:10+00:00

Often. I live with roommates, but have no genuine connection to them. Such is life.

selfism_mike · 2020-10-08T11:30:46+00:00

When I was younger frequently.

Since I got to know how people are, never.

I am actually grateful for the peace and quiet.

fritobandito214 · 2020-10-08T13:54:02+00:00

Im good doing my own thing solo but used to have that empty alone feeling during the holidays, that was until i found out about single's boat cruises, wow it's a literal 3 days of debauchery. I highly recommend if you want to just forget about the holidays and get away for a few days.

TheFutureIsFefail · 2020-10-08T16:23:16+00:00

I'm glad I always was introverted. If I felt any compulsion I should participate in this Clown World I'd just get damaged by it.

Besides, I'm only interested in intelligent humans and not NPCs. Those are 1:10k, perhaps less than that. Without a worldwide sized net like the internet I'd never even meet one. Bad socialization is worse than silence.

LuigiC173 · 2020-10-08T21:06:01+00:00

about your age(30) and honestly I think it's just the way of man to be on your own by this point if you've avoided the whole wife and kids thing. Reality is there's not many "firsts" at this point in life, you've seen the majority if not all that people have to offer, same topics, same old sons and dance. Not to be depressing but it's just the brutal honest truth. I def had my moments in my late twenties but at this point i'm overall content with me, myself, and I being the usual norm. Hanging with people has devolved into eventually sitting amongst a bunch of people staring at their phones so what are you honestly missing.

PhilNEvo · 2020-10-09T06:10:51+00:00

Never~

R3dd1tSuux · 2020-10-08T07:39:15+00:00

Since the Kung Flu landed and restriction began, it's been a lot harder to get my desired amount of social interaction (and preferred gym workouts). That's when I turned to reddit more, I'd say. I also dove into work more (my own biz), picked up a hobby I'd always wanted to get into, started playing a video I enjoyed some years back and now with a deep modding community is even more engaging, enjoy walk, bike rides, and just being outside.

I also pray more, no church needed for that :)

I would say that going on a walk and seeing people who may be open to chatting is one way to fulfill that - one poster mentioned people at the gas station. I do that too. You can be creative.

One suggestion I have is to watch some comedy before you go out. Give yourself a good laugh, so you're already in a good mood. People sense emotions and body language. If you're feeling down, they'll avoid you. Even if you were down most of the day but have something funny in mind it can shift their energy toward you. I found it helped me.

TruMaleFeminist · 2020-10-08T08:32:37+00:00

Only when I'm ill and can't take care of stuff myself.

hydromarine · 2020-10-08T11:57:42+00:00

In my life there is no time for loneliness. I am busy doing whatever I want and it's plenty.

mgtowwaiting · 2020-10-08T16:10:59+00:00

it's easier to handle if you don't interact with women at all.
these days i see a young lady maybe once a month when i go to the grocery store.
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for the most part, been mgtow monk since i was 18 or so. i had a TON of redpill rage, and after that i guess some really bad depression. but after all that, people often told me that i was the happiest person they knew. back then i probably cried maybe once a month.

few years back i broke my mgtow mentality briefly, thought i found a NAWLT, but wasn't the case, i was just foolish and i think someone or several people were drugging me, trying to hook me up to keep me from retiring early.

anywho, when i went through that emotional roller coaster, i cried uncontrollably every day, sometimes for hours at a time. developed extreme anxiety, couldn't even drive. couple times the anxiety caused me to slam my breaks randomly while going through green lights.

2-3 years later, i'm crying maybe a few times a week, for 5-10 minutes or so. honestly, a lot also depends on the weather, if i have good weather i can go for a week without having a random 5 minute cry session. the first 2 years were in the city, and this past year i've been in the middle of no where. i feel like this random depression bs will be over in a year.

point is, the depression goes away. it helps A LOT if you do not have any contact what so ever with woman.

eventually your body adjusts and completely accepts that there are no women around you, and will let you resume your life without these random interruptions of depression.

honestly, i think it's pretty similar to a drug detox, a very bad drug detox. just remember, the depression goes away. cut out all women from your life, and you will stop having bouts of depression.

i'm raising chickens right now, so this might seem random.
but, more ethical chicken ranchers, will separate male / female chickens, instead of killing the male chick right on the spot.
when separated, roosters get along just fine; it's when hens and roosters are mixed that things get a bit... violent.

Title	How often do you feel lonely?
Author	thrmnd
Upvotes	30
Comments	27
Date	October 8, 2020 4:12 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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