How to stop self pity

nonchalantfool · 2019-11-28T22:16:26+00:00

We all end up as worm food. Meditate on that every day.

Live for yourself.

2019-11-28T23:51:12+00:00

I think you're doing the self improvement for the wrong reasons. I suggest improving yourself with the goal of being happier in your own life. Not so some used up gash will smile at you.

Ocjab · 2019-11-28T22:44:56+00:00

First mistake: " Women just don’t like me no matter how much I improve "

Why the fuck are you improving yourself to impress women? This is not what mgtow stands for.

second mistake: " I tried all of you guys advice and I can’t ever be happy. "

The fact that you are using our advice to get women, then you clearly haven't been following our advice ...

debanked · 2019-11-28T22:18:09+00:00

This can be resolved, however it's not something that can be helped by posts/comments in the sub. Start by finding a good mentor/life coach

We are taught how to read, write, play sport etc. What's not taught is how to self comfort and have love for ourselves

WoestijnGarnaal · 2019-11-28T22:27:45+00:00

You are not alone feeling this way.

Maybe start with cutting ties to those who wronged you. Stop checking up on them, if you run into them ignore them or when they initiate contact say "hi, sorry i'm in a hurry" and keep walking.

Sure knowing they got what's comming to them might be a short boost of happiness but that wave will die down sooner or later.

In the end we don't choose the cards we have been dealt but we always have the option to play or fold regardless of outcome.

Zombeflandrs · 2019-11-28T22:37:37+00:00

Hit the gym and the weights hard. Keep doing it so you are to exhausted physically and mentally to feel the way you are.

no_patrick_the_lid · 2019-11-29T02:07:42+00:00

I wasted a lot of my life on self-pity. It's a convenient feel-good mechanism but I find it makes life very stagnant.

I'll tell you what took me 10 years to realize - each of us is responsible for solving our own problems, regardless of whether we caused them. Self-pity is what happens when we assign blame instead of taking that in stride.

If women don't like you it doesn't mean you're cursed. It means they don't see the benefit from associating with you. This may mean you're hiding or lacking in resources. Either way, it's something only you can fix.

If people wrong you they may or may not "get what's coming to them". You can make this happen at the cost of your time and resources, or you can let it go and focus on improving your life some more.

It's not that you should or shouldn't be like this. You simply are like this now, but that's something that you are in a position to change. Never forget that.

ZeroBlink · 2019-11-28T22:24:33+00:00

When you're young is much more annoying than as an adult.

I remember calming down only around 25-26 , before that to be perfectly honest my life was ruled by my hormones , all the pressure could be felt building up in the veins. Whenever I saw a pretty girl it would feel like I got an injection of Chaos right then and there.

You can literally be bursting with negative energy in a very physical sense. However I got obsessed with Starcraft 2 so I had a way to relieve the pressure , you need one too. Eventually you'll stop giving a fuck , unwanted feelings calm down a lot.

Do people ever get what they deserve? Everyone gets old, everyone gets sick and death is a lonely affair. Someone who stamps over other people all their life isn't prepared for that kind of hardship. They get what they deserve.

plainnsimpleforever · 2019-11-28T22:25:06+00:00

You're just a kid. When you're a kid you think that all your problems are unique to you. When you get older (and wiser) you realise that everyone is screwed-up, and we are all just hanging-on and trying to do our best.

mtamez1221 · 2019-11-28T23:20:06+00:00

Apathy towards everything brought me peace, or that’s what I think, I’m 22. Control what you can control

ReverendCatch · 2019-11-28T23:53:26+00:00

Life is strange. Some people get theirs. Others do the most incredibly evil shit and walk free.

You can’t control that. All you can do is go your way, follow your life and your self, and tune out the noise. Most of this life is just yappy dogs making noise.

Rise above it all. The greatness you get is the greatness you give.

So choose to be great. You got this.

MoonshineGuy859 · 2019-11-29T04:38:27+00:00

Create. Build something. Read the bible. Grow a garden. Get a hobby. Draw or paint. Work out. Move. Change jobs. Start a business.

Vighaca · 2019-11-29T06:58:43+00:00

Don't Improve for a woman or others, Do it because you'll be better off in the long run.

Resentment towards others means that they live rent free in your mind, that just weighs you down.

Focus on bettering yourself so that you aren't ashamed of the reflection in the mirror.

2019-11-29T13:05:32+00:00

i) Hit the gym and take up weight training (it will burn cortisol [stress hormone] and produce more testosterone and happy chemicals).

ii) Run 5k a day (again, it will burn cortisol [stress hormone] and produce more testosterone and happy chemicals).

iii) Study philosophy (it will help you think better, and apply logic to your issues).

knowyourworth69 · 2019-11-29T17:47:41+00:00

Do you work out? Do you brush your teeth? Do you treat others with respect?

If so, you’re worthy!

Title	How to stop self pity
Author	Lilrobinzzzz
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	November 28, 2019 10:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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