Hey gents! I come to you humbly looking for advice or experiences, I need your help. So for about 4 years now I have been single but I continuously struggle with being attracted to and distracted by hot women. It's really quite frustrating sometimes because I know logically I don't want or need a woman in my life. My main question is, what do I need to do to get to a point where I don't think about and want to look at and fuck every hot girl I see?

A little background about me for context. I'm 33, and I was decently successful with women throughout my 20's. Had a few pretty good relationships, the longest one lasted from age 24-26, a couple one nighters, and some really fun fwb's. My last real relationship ended when I was 29. She was 2 years younger than me, we were together for a year, and although I liked her as a person, I only really stayed with her because she was pretty hot and we had consistent sex. I met her on a dating app while we were both in college. We broke up after an argument we had over my decision to quit school and get a job. Apparently she places more value on having a degree than I do. Whatever, I didn't lose any sleep over this one and it woke me up to the fact that, if we had been married and this happened, it could have been SO much worse.

After we broke up, I decided to take a break from dating for a while and focus on taking care of myself and my now late dad. Living with him and taking care of him was emotionally draining so realistically I didn't have anything left for a relationship but I couldn't stop thinking about girls. Over the next 2 years, I did my best to just do what I could for my dad and keep as much of my sanity as I could.

After he passed, I knew I needed time to deal with some depression that crept up on me before trying to get back into dating. I probably should have gone to more than 1 therapy session lol but oh well. A year and a half has gone by now and I'm doing much better mentally, so good in fact that I consider the last year one of the best years of my life. I've done some really cool shit that I wouldn't have done if I had a s/o, but for some reason I still think about women, like a lot.

I've installed and deleted tinder so many times, especially in the last year, that I can't count, and even when I'm on it, I have zero success. I may get a match every other day or so but they never amount to anything because apparently I'm like decent husband/dad material but that's not what I want to be. I don't want to change my way of life for someone else anymore. I really enjoy my life now.

So what is it that allows you guys to keep your head on straight when a hot female walks into the room? Is it just self control or is it something greater? I've noticed a lot of guys, mgtow or not, have the ability to not acknowledge or seem to care about being around attractive women but I can't seem to get there.

I would greatly appreciate any advice you guys can throw my way. If you read this far, thank you!