Learning to be alone?

GoodMan_Gone · 2021-07-20T07:35:23+00:00

This seems to come up more as of late. My 2 cents. OP. Realize profoundly that you are always alone. You have been born alone, live alone and you will die alone. It's a simple fact. The sooner you make "friendship" with that fact, the sooner you can detach yourself from clinging on to the form (with form I mean everything: your money, possessions, people in your life, your job a.s.o.). Because the form will end. Always.

And don't get scared by the "you will die alone" shaming. No matter how many people there will be sobbing at your (and my) deathbed: you are going. Not them (yet). Perhaps in a plane crashing down, you will not die "alone." You are and so are the other people. They do that alone, all roughly at the same time.

You say "society is toxic." Perhaps. But it's not important. Let society do whatever the fuck it wants. It's not your concern. I bet you're seeing those people on facebook, having those "wonderful lives." Well screw them: they have bad times too. Just like you and me. Those people have in fact the same fear you have: of being alone and the emptiness. And also are clinging on to the form.

Also: stop hating please. Hatred will only damage yourself and nobody else.

"Oh! That sounds too easy to be true!!" Because it is that easy. It's your mind making it hard....

Wakka_Grand_Wizard · 2021-07-20T08:19:03+00:00

I am about the same age as you OP. Oddly enough, my mother constantly lied. Said she was going to leave our abusive step father once i graduated, and she goes ahead and marries him instead .So, i feel your pain.

Or the time when my "unicorn" of an ex, turned into a slut immidietly when we broke up or how my second ex found a guy in a month. There is enough pain and misery, trust me.

How to be alone? Mushashi wrote a short thing on it: The 21 precepts of Dokkodo:

Accept everything just the way it is.
Do not seek pleasure for its own sake.
Do not, under any circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.
Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.
Be detached from desire your whole life long.
Do not regret what you have done.
Never be jealous.
Never let yourself be saddened by a separation.
Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself or others.
Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love.
In all things have no preferences.
Be indifferent to where you live.
Do not pursue the taste of good food.
Do not hold on to possessions you no longer need.
Do not act following customary beliefs.
Do not collect weapons or practice with weapons beyond what is useful.
Do not fear death.
Do not seek to possess either goods or fiefs for your old age.
Respect Buddha and the gods without counting on their help.
You may abandon your own body but you must preserve your honour.
Never stray from the way.

MrMcpizzza · 2021-07-20T09:01:32+00:00

Remember when men used to have hobbies? That’s what’s wrong with today, guys aren’t having hobbies. When you have hobbies and passions outside of women and sex life is pretty good, it’s going to be lonely and at times boring and that’s okay. Go find something your passion about that will help build you up, then you’ll meet people and maybe expand your horizons..

kuusetukas · 2021-07-20T10:05:31+00:00

When you realize that in this world you can only relay on and trust yourself, then you do not have high expectations from others and it becomes inspiration for self-improvement . All you get from others (or give to others) is a bonus and you should appreciate those people for that, nobody owes you anything.

The friends come and go - you can meet new friends even when you are 40+ years old. Your interests and philosophy of life changes constantly and so do your friends. And again, you should appreciate those friends who remain.

If you are still missing a fine companion then you might consider taking a dog or speaking with your own personal God (The Creator) who is always with you when you call Him (does not have to be any religion or church, you can turn to Him directly).

Long_Range_Shooter · 2021-07-20T15:08:14+00:00

Learn to appreciate yourself and quit looking for approval from other people. Find hobbies or activities you like and you'll find other people to hang with.

If you're the outdoors type there are all kinds of groups you can join like a bicycling, canoeing/ kayaking, hiking, scuba diving for example. If you more the introverted type maybe getting you amateur radio license and joining a local radio club will help you meet like minded folks.

You said you use to be very involved with the church. If your Church isn't working for you there are probably a number of others in your area that may work for you.

Don't sit around an mope on how your life sucks find things to do that will take your mind off what's eating at you.

Like a friend of mine F40 who asked me what I did over the fourth? I told her I drove 1,000 miles round trip over to the National Corvette Museum in Bowling Green to look at the cars. She acted like I was nuts because I drove 1,000 miles round trip in one day to spend 1.5 hours at the museum. The thing she didn't get was I don't care what anyone else thinks and neither should you.

I have a number of links on my favorites of places I plan on going late this summer early fall by myself. I wait for no one and when I want to do something I go do it.

pamfeuer · 2021-07-20T10:42:56+00:00

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Realize this : As a man you are forever alone.

Canute87 · 2021-07-20T13:25:34+00:00

The more you are in it and find things to enjoy the more you become used to it.

I used to feel that way when i was younger but now not having to think about other people and their problems is rather nice.

I've realized that majority of interactions with people are with their issues and problems.

Groundbreaking_the2 · 2021-07-20T15:05:14+00:00

Why not find another Church, a group of friends, do some community service, etc? You don't have to be alone. Go out and have fun.

Number_Useful · 2021-07-21T00:42:59+00:00

I’m a loaner, learning to be lonely is great. I still don’t think it’s for everyone. We’re all different and I need to be around people sometimes. I like hanging out with extroverts because I don’t have to do any of the talking and just people watch.

Freedom-INC · 2021-07-20T10:00:18+00:00

Time

Low_Echidna4462 · 2021-07-20T11:52:22+00:00

Find the Iron Temple. Brodin will show you the Whey.

Serioisly, lifting and working towards some goals I set for myself helped me a lot. You might get some of that social interaction you were missing, and building it into your daily routine gives your day some structure.

silly_birb · 2021-07-20T12:30:47+00:00

find hobbies that you can share with a smaller group of people, like playing music with a band or even just find an online group to play Dungeons & Dragons with.

I advise against online videogame communities because they are just toxic.

justaguy529 · 2021-07-20T15:49:29+00:00

toxic is a nonsensical buzzword basically meaning "something I don't like, so I don't think anyone should like it either". I would suggest focusing on your career and the gym.

RedditAreWokeNazis · 2021-07-20T15:59:53+00:00

Yeah being alone sucks,
but this woke shitstain society and the NPCs in it (blue pills) are your enemy.

So the only real life there is,
is an unnatural Rambo style life,
everyone for himself,
trust no one.

Sucks but is better than trusting any of those evil NPCs.

Representative_Ad_40 · 2021-07-21T09:08:32+00:00

Buy a Playstation 5.

Title	Learning to be alone?
Author	frankman2100
Upvotes	29
Comments	20
Date	July 20, 2021 7:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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