As a 23 year old guy, I still struggle with developing huge crushes on girls I spend a lot of time around (at work). Recently, I've developed an enormous crush on a gorgeous 6'1 blonde. We see each other everywhere at work even though she's not in my department and actually works at the complete opposite side of our huge building.

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We run into each other every day, either in the cafeteria or in a random hallway for no rhyme or reason. It got to the point where I almost considered approaching her and asking her out. I've never had a legitimate gf, and never had sex. Mainly because it's fucking dangerous and you can get yourself into big trouble with the law, STDs, etc. Additionally, the competition and effort that it takes to bed a hot girl just isn't worth it. So I jerked off, and now that I have a clear head, I can again see that it's not worth it.

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You know, sometimes I feel upset and a little lonely every now and again, but that never lasts too long. I'm sure it would be cool to have sex with a girl I find really attractive, but the effort/time/money/risk associated with accomplishing that will never be worth it to me. Usually if I just masturbate, those feelings go away.

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Sometimes I wish that things were different, because I think about wanting to have a child someday. Every day that I run into a baby boy or girl at the grocery store or wherever I am, they always seem fascinated by me. They always stare at me, giggle, and act all happy. Literally every 1-2 year old that I see, it's weird. But again, having a child would mean finding "love" with a beautiful woman, and that's just not gonna happen. I'm not putting in that kind of effort and taking those kind of risks along the way for some girl who will likely just cheat on me and then somehow end up with custody. I've worked too hard to get to where I am, and I'm not going to make a stupid, emotional decision that could ruin all of the progress that I've made.

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Sometimes you just have to understand reality and deal with it appropriately.