Moving in together

DangZagnut · 2018-12-10T14:22:26+00:00

Just don’t do it.

Moving in together only benefits her, then you’re paying for everything. Then when that gets annoying she gets pregnant.

DO NOT DO IT.

801735 · 2018-12-10T14:11:28+00:00

However in a few months time she is expecting us to move in together and I am not looking forward to it.

It's in my observation (and xp) when you two move in together you start falling apart. Probably because of lack of "give me a chance to miss you" and no thrills because of constant incremental updates lack the high of the unknown/novelty.

LogicBeforeEmotions · 2018-12-10T14:14:50+00:00

Remember AWALT.

In her mind you're like a broken machine (atm) that needs to be fixed, bcs you're not following the social norm, so clearly something is wrong with you.

Women LOVE it when they 'fix' a person and they change because of 'her'.

Remember John Cena's wife? Take that as a lesson for GYOW.

Meritosthenes · 2018-12-10T15:15:24+00:00

Okay so the majority verdict is NO! I'm gonna break it to her tonight, obviously not going to be a dick about it but I'm not gonna take any shit.

Thanks brothers

CastandRefused · 2018-12-10T17:28:12+00:00

Lived with mine for a year and a half. Take it from me dude, it will make you unhappy in the long run. I was a pushover simp, not anymore. She ended up cheating and leaving me. Even if she doesn't cheat on you and leave there's too many downsides and little in return.

Your personal space goes down to zero, you end up paying for nearly everything. You always have to share things and be considerate of what she wants. She will whine, she will nag, she will be increasingly critical of you. Alright, I'm done, just I really wouldn't do it.

honda_vfr · 2018-12-10T14:13:25+00:00

and everything between us is okay.

How do you know?

Women to CAN be very vindictive. So you have to be very careful.

But, in my opinion, you never should have gone this long. It's just to dangerous today.

MichaelSkarn_FBI · 2018-12-10T15:02:07+00:00

[Serious]What’s in it for you?

[deleted] · 2018-12-10T15:24:55+00:00

She's so excited to get her bills cut in half to afford more nights out chasing Chad dick with your beta bux. Don't do it man. Just spend the night from time to time.

[deleted] · 2018-12-10T15:53:24+00:00

My GF would love for us to live together. I don't. So we're not living together.

Don't be a pussy - keep in mind what YOU want.

ApertureBear · 2018-12-10T17:30:30+00:00

I don't know how to break it to her that I don't want to live with her.

"I don't want to move in with you."

ericavi8tor · 2018-12-10T21:05:14+00:00

Worst mistake of your life if she moves in. We've all been in this situation and it NEVER works out.

tyronwind · 2018-12-10T14:26:34+00:00

Hey, man. I'll assume everything is truly great between you guys and work from there.

Yes, this might (and very likely will) break you guys up, but if your relationship is based on honesty (as it should) you have to say it. That being said, your option are a miserable life together or damaging the current relation. Good luck

MXRNate77 · 2018-12-10T14:32:27+00:00

Don’t do it!

You will be sacrificing everything about yourself including your money. It will seem fine at first but you are right it will go to shit soon. That lease will lock you down for a year as well. I’m with the others and just be honest it will be better for you in the long run.

You will be on the plantation and will be no more than a stuffed animal on her bed.

Atton_Risk · 2018-12-10T14:38:36+00:00

Depending on where you live this might be her attempt and getting you under common law marriage.

[deleted] · 2018-12-10T14:39:50+00:00

It's been fun

Astral-Projector · 2018-12-10T14:47:12+00:00

You sound like you are afraid of her or atleast hurting her. Just tell her straight up that it aint gonna happen. If she says goodbye, you answer: Okey, take care and move on with your life.

[deleted] · 2018-12-10T14:51:08+00:00

It's the beginning of the end

Standard_Nebula · 2018-12-10T15:11:50+00:00

I'm not even going to read this. Just don't do it. There are little modern day success stories. Even in success it is horrible. Buddy of mine can't do anything. Has to take care of wife and kid. Makes great money but is still poor. Run

Standard_Nebula · 2018-12-10T15:13:16+00:00

How you fi give a woman access to your Villa?

[deleted] · 2018-12-10T15:15:35+00:00

If you DO decide to move in, don’t be on the lease. This way you can dip if it gets outta control. Then again, I would never cohabitate even if that meant I saved a couple hundred dollars.

[deleted] · 2018-12-10T15:47:57+00:00

What do you guys think?

Well, since you asked.

So I've been in a relationship with my GF for the last few years

What are you doing posting in MGTOW then? Which part of TOW is not really clear?

in a few months time she is expecting us to move in together

Oh really? And who led her to believe that?

In my mind this is how it all starts, my road to slavehood.

Dude, it has already started.

I have made it clear to her that I will never get married and she has accepted that..

Oh really? You also say "I am not looking forward to it. " which means that you're about to do something that you don't want to do, but you're going along because she wants it. Who is in control of whom?

I don't know how to break it to her that I don't want to live with her.

Try this: "I don't want to move in together" or "No way we're moving in together"

I think you have to go through what's ahead of you. MGTOW sounds very good but it's not easy to embrace, especially when someone is young and inexperienced. So, do what you have to do, you have to see this situation through in order to be able to decide for yourself what to do in your life. I tell you this from the bottom of my heart and I mean it 100%. No sarcasm. Really.

SalvageProbe · 2018-12-10T15:54:00+00:00

Move in together

On what conditions? What are living arrangements now, what it will become (who moves where, who owns the place etc).

Kramerthepug · 2018-12-10T16:56:54+00:00

Time to leave. Dump her and move on.

carterrockhouse · 2018-12-10T17:49:59+00:00

If you must live together, have her move in with you. So when things do go south, SHE has to pack up and leave!!!

Dont move in with her. It will kill the relationship ship because you'll never be king of HER house!

With that said...

If you're never planning on living with her might be time to end the relationship.

rooster-one4 · 2018-12-10T18:30:28+00:00

If you're not comfortable doing something, then don't do it.

Plazmatron44 · 2018-12-10T19:21:25+00:00

DO NOT DO IT!

Toshiba1point0 · 2018-12-10T23:09:42+00:00

You have to listen to what you’re saying to yourself here. Things are going “ok.” “She” wants to move in. “You” will never get married.

Don’t do that to her or yourself. I made that mistake, not worth it because she will never leave which means you’ll have to.

MAJIIC · 2018-12-11T02:10:06+00:00

Do not do it. Look up Competition Anxiety. Richard Cooper talks about it. https://youtu.be/faf2l6mX_fw Let me know your thoughts on it.

MGTOWmb · 2018-12-11T12:33:24+00:00

Don't do it. I recently posted my story about moving in with my girlfriend, how it completely changed the dynamic of our relationship, and how she's trying to squeeze me for anything she can now that we've broken up. Here is the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/a2eqno/the_only_thing_worse_than_realizing_youre_a_simp/

If you don't want to bother reading the whole thing (and I don't blame you), here is a quick TL;DR: Met a woman who I thought wasn't like other women. We eventually move in together and she almost immediately transforms. She stops working, sex gets bland, and she constantly nags and complains, because nothing I do is good enough anymore. This is a complete 180 in her behavior. We break up and she tries to (so far unsuccessfully) get more money out of me by seeing if we qualified for commonlaw marriage so she could claim half my stuff.

The thing is, I would have never in a million years thought she was capable of acting like this before we had moved in together. Her personality completely changed. The point is she completely lied about who she really was for years and didn't show her true self until she thought I was stuck with her. I guarantee you that within the first month of her moving in, your relationship will change, and not for the better.

SologamousMonk · 2018-12-12T02:49:02+00:00

Never cohabitate. Source: getting left after five years on a whim and having to move everything I own on short notice.

Title	Moving in together
Author	Traxicon
Upvotes	7
Comments	34
Date	December 10, 2018 2:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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