My Depression

project_mayhem_ · 2017-06-12T05:55:10+00:00

Joseph,

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I have little information on which to form an opinion, but my initial evaluation is that you are an entirely ordinary young man, upon whom difficult circumstances have fallen. Your retreat into video games is normal and healthy. Anyone who doesn't understand this is completely lacking in empathy. But, I would suggest that it is healthier to retreat into physical pursuits. You are not athletic; neither am I. But I delight in the skilled trade I have always practiced. I encourage you to learn to do something good in the world with your hands and your brains. It's what your dad would have wanted. If your mother and sisters won't encourage you in this, perhaps contact your father's girlfriend; there are such things as women who are capable of empathy. If she does not encourage you either, come back here. We only want you to be happy.

lonewolf-chicago · 2017-06-12T06:11:47+00:00

My mother committed suicide when I was 11 years old and my dad died of a brain tumor 6 months later. My dad was sick for about two years before he died... I only say this because I do understand the loss.

Suffice it to say that just about everything that you do to cope, is normal. It has only been seven months so no one with a brain would tell you that you're even close to Healing.

It has been 34 years and I still feel the pain every day.

I can tell you what saved my life was having a safe place to sleep and food on the table and after a few years I began martial arts.

Physical work to exhaustion settles the mind. Nothing is going to solve the problem of feeling pain and sorrow and that empty feeling of never being able to speak with your father again - I know that feeling well.

What I do know is what will help you sleep at night and that is punching a heavy bag, kicking a heavy bag, lifting weights, running, cross fit ... working your body to exhaustion helps calm your mind and when you are done, the feeling of euphoria can put you in a place where you can think happy thoughts about your father.

The only place I've ever experienced God is after a workout. It WILL help.

Direct message me anytime you want and I mean that.

Chrh · 2017-06-12T09:13:54+00:00

As someone who has suffered from depression for a long time, here are two things I wish someone had forced me to do earlier.

1) see a doctor.

2) start with some form of physical exercise (I started with long walks and audiobooks)

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2017-06-12T07:02:39+00:00

I feel you man. Playing videogames to stave off the feelings is good, to some extend. Don't think that by ignoring it by playing videogames, it will all be alright. The problem with this is that the issues you are facing are merely shoved in front of you and will be waiting till you make the time to deal with it. I know depression can come from many sources, many reasons and can take different forms. However, I'd encourage you to try not to care abour issues you cannot change. You can't change your mom, you can't change your sister. You cannot make them happy, that is their own task. You should think about yourself. So go find that, which makes you happy. My brother died when I was 19 and I drowned myself in weed and videogames. Now I am 29, addicted to weed and definitely where I want to be in life, instead, go find your happy place. Go find what you want to do with your life and pursue that with all your power. Go find some things that will give you satisfaction with your life. For me, simply lifting weights and getting more muscular was a start with feeling happy and achieved. You don't wanna hear this but, achievement and development of yourself are very strong motivators and happy-makers. Unless you are pro-tier, games will never give you that satisfaction, though it's useful for taking your mind of the negative situation you are in.

I don't know how useful my words are, but please make an effort to become healthy and good.. and release the stress you have from your mom and sibling, you cannot make them happy.

FromWildManToWiseMan · 2017-06-12T15:38:37+00:00

High stim online videogames, porn...

How can you expect to feel when you spent all day consuming these and squeeze every drop of dopamine from your skull?

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sadbasturd99 · 2017-06-12T12:11:50+00:00

I can tell you from experience that lifting and taking medications don't work. Try a therapist who does ACT. Try Russ Harris' books like "The Happiness Trap"

starkiller439 · 2017-06-12T23:55:50+00:00

I know its not the same, but about a year and a half ago i lost my grandmother and just a few months before that a friend committed suicide . I know how it can feel losing people close to you and honestly i handled it in a similar way that you did. I played video games and other things to take my mind off of the pain. Someone else mentioned this, but i really think you should start doing some form of exercise. Heh take it from me a fat guy that started working out and is starting to enjoy life for the first time in a while. Id also recommend eating healthy if your not already doing it, something about it makes you feel like a weight has been lifted from you. What im trying to say with all this is ive been there we all have at one point and there is a way you can come back and be happy with yourself if you just do it. All i can really say is that, just do it. Your the one who makes the decision what to do in the end

Good day

Title	My Depression
Author	JoeyBLF42
Upvotes	12
Comments	8
Date	June 12, 2017 5:23 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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