Needing advice

DangZagnut · 2018-04-12T13:01:02+00:00

Time. Time is about the only thing. Out of sight, out of mind. Don't ask about her, don't text her, don't spy on her facebook, etc.

The less she is present, the less she'll be in your mind.

I find it unusual that you're the one who broke up, yet you're still thinking about her. Usually it's the other way around.

Keep yourself busy. Do different things that you haven't done before. It will help drive out intrusive thoughts.

Hardwaregrinder22 · 2018-04-12T13:10:13+00:00

You are stuck in a thought pattern. One way of overcoming this obstacle is simply realizing that she didn't love you. Much of the hurt you're feeling is the feeling of loss. You didn't lose anything because you didn't have it to begin with. Your brain made an illusion in your head and flooded the body with chemicals in an attempt to make you breed. You need to realize that she never loved you for being you and you're as expendible as a pair of socks. You gave in to the urge to love and she exploited it and once she found something better she left you in the dirt, with no regard of your feelings. Nothing was ever real. The faster you come to this realization the faster you will be able to move on.

Marque01 · 2018-04-12T13:18:52+00:00

You're still focusing on the good times. Focus on the reasons you two broke up. That'll help. And like DangZagnut says. Time. It gets easier.

samrene17 · 2018-04-12T13:11:33+00:00

Jerk it off.
You are still under the spell of the most exploitative magic called 'love' which means even her absence has control over your life. So break that spell which only you have to figure it out by yourself. It is the process that will makes you wiser. Also, watch MGTOW Youtube content such Sandman, huMAN, Tom Lykis, An ear for men, Entrepreneurs for cars, Colltaine, Turd Flinging Monkey, Howard Dare, Sunrise Hoodie, etc..
Lift weights
'Clean your room' - Jordan Peterson
Make yourself priority
Like Dangnut said give it time.

Good Luck

ck_1991 · 2018-04-12T14:51:02+00:00

What helped me once was finding a time consuming hobby. It usually works. But time itself is enough to get over someone.

WhackingPsychopomp · 2018-04-12T13:06:56+00:00

Turn off the porn and video games, join a gym, use it. Start a supplementation regime with vitamins and amino acids.

Write her a long letter (DON'T mail it) and put everything you want her to hear from you down on paper. Put it in an envelope, pull it out and read it occasionally.

Start a prayer regimen. Upon waking and before retiring for the night. Pray for release from this. Pray for the right people to come into your life.

Read: 'Will' by G. Gordon Liddy. 'Ten Men in the Huddle' by Bill Curry 'Success is a Choice' by Rick Pitino

Write down your 5 year goals. Then make your daily To Do List consist of things that move you closer to those goals. Set goals for each major area of your life: physical, mental, spiritual, social, financial.

footloosemonk · 2018-04-12T15:33:41+00:00

Let in new, fresh stuff and watch old stuff leave without even you being aware of it.

Pellaeon_redpill · 2018-04-12T15:59:29+00:00

Can anyone give me advice on how to let go/forget/move on from her so I can be my own man again?

https://www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/how-to-do-eft.html
Read The Sedona Method and practice the exercises as you go
Read Full Catastrophe Living and practice the exercises as you go
Spend time on hobbies you enjoy

redditloginfail · 2018-04-12T22:12:27+00:00

Enough time and you won't care about her at all. Mgtow knowledge will likely help the process.

Mr_M0t0m0 · 2018-04-13T00:57:00+00:00

We've ALL been there, Mister. Focus your thoughts on the present task at hand. Perform mindful breathing techniques to clear your head. Find fun and engaging things to do to occupy your time, energy, thoughts, and actions. And remember - You Are Better Off Without Her Weighing You Down. MGTOW 4 LIFE

Lil_Mgtow · 2018-04-13T09:09:14+00:00

They dont teach us how to deal with pain but a women's approach is actually said to be healthy. Dont bottle it all up inside an try to pretend it doesn't bother you. Find an outlet that allows you to regain your confidence again. Depending on how much you mentally invested you might never forget her but at least your free to live for yourself. Complete that oil painting, workout at the gym, go out with your closes friends, and get some ass while your at it. Cry if you need to but if you dont pick yourself up your just proving that your nothing without your physical crutch.

Title	Needing advice
Author	Wonderstag
Upvotes	6
Comments	11
Date	April 12, 2018 12:58 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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