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nopersonbestpal · 2018-09-04T15:10:18+00:00

Welcome brother. Your thought process of not being good enough is blue pill thinking and it wont last long here. We dont follow any philosophy, my values dont seem to matter when I post them here and I understand why.

At the end of the day this is a path of freedom and of flexibility. Its whatever your own way is. Women are not our problem or our responsibility or our duty.

onecanadianboy · 2018-09-04T15:01:48+00:00

The values of MGTOW are extremely diverse. The 'core' 'rules' of MGTOW are do not marry and no cohabitation.

Beyond that, you'll find some people who are 'monk mode' (never sleep with women. Avoid them whenever possible). Others 'pump and dump' (sleep with women, then leave). Others will date, but without any potential for marriage or cohabitation.

Your comment that you need to become the best person you can before you fall in love will likely not resonate well here. Instead, you need to become the best person you can be for yourself! Never for a women as they will not honor that effort. You will absolutely never be good enough for a women, in their eyes (look at the countless rich/good looking celebrities that have gotten divorce raped in just the last few years).

Anyway. There's a quick intro. Ask more questions, get more answers, Go Your Own Way.

TheRabbitTunnel · 2018-09-04T16:41:29+00:00

MGTOW is about the rejection of the cultural emphasis on the importance of relationships.

Rather than focusing on "finding the one" and starting a family, focus on yourself. Your own goals, dreams, finances, etc. Dont worry about women. At most, use women for fwb or hookups. Dont become "official" or anything. Some mgtow do that, but it really does go against the principle.

Its your life, so live it for you, not for a woman or a family.

Solstus22 · 2018-09-04T17:56:44+00:00

The values? Generally live and do things for yourself, FIRST. Other than that, as long as you don't co-habitate or marry, it's whatever you want it to be.

Mine is:

- Never living without regrets.

- Think very hard on the decisions you make, whether light, heavy or in between.

- Being assertive in your beliefs.

- Live on your own terms and expectations.

801735 · 2018-09-04T18:19:05+00:00

I don’t blame anyone but myself for my shortcomings. If I don’t take full responsibility and attempt to improve on what I’m struggling with, how can I become a better person?

This attitude is better than blaming everybody but yourself. But the goal post is floating, too, don't forget to take that into account when introspecting/improving self.

mgtow-zen · 2018-09-04T19:21:55+00:00

You will never feel "good enough" to be loved if you believe there could ever be a time when you weren't. To believe so is to believe you are a thing that changes in time. That you are this "man" the world made. This kind of thinking traps you into thinking you are what women think you are.

What exactly is this self you blame for these alleged shortcomings? Who, exactly, gets to declare what those shortcomings are, and by what ruler do they measure them?

The only real core philosophy is: don't marry, don't have kids, don't cohabitate.

The rest is up to you, but if you are "trying to be a better person so women find you lovable" all I can say is, come back in 10 years after enough of them have kicked you around.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2018-09-05T07:36:31+00:00

For me, MGTOW is about shedding expectations of my family, society and basically anyone else. To define your own definitions of success and happiness and follow those, instead of mindlessly doing what others are telling you.. Work on yourself, create your best you and do not feel bad for not sticking to conventional values. Be your own man and do what you want to do, cause you want to.. not cause it's expected

Title	New to this sub
Author	onecanadianboy
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	September 4, 2018 2:56 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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