Off topic- Cannot focus/concentrate

selfism_mike · 2020-01-13T11:41:00+00:00

Its depression, I am going through the same thing. I am right now struggling to stay interested in anything.

My theory is, that my value-system is shot. Your values are what carries you. I try to do every morning before work what I know is important to me, just a few minutes each. Keeping a clip board with loose lists, making notes during the day, going back over it and summarizing, writing ideas down during the day. Everything is a process, and there seems to be nothing like a "free will" just a period of pre-conditioning until you got the critical "energy" accumulated to automatically do it. The only thing under our control seems to be thoughts, but they are very fluid and its a hell of a process to establish values from those.

Its often said here that not giving a shit is important, and I agree, especially if the world has proven to you that the values you believed in are nothing but crap. The problem with the mentality of not giving a shit, like with any mentality, is that it tends to bleed all over the place, also affecting that what you actually still care about.

I make a violent decision every morning to be happy for the next three hours, and I know what to do (I get up 4:30 for a walk, then do my other little stuff). Fuck the rest of the day.

I don't believe it has to do with chemicals or low testosterone or anything like that. The nervous system has to learn how to be happy again, and that requires consistent training and learning.

AeternusDoleo · 2020-01-13T11:21:21+00:00

Don't bother with adderall/ritalin. They don't work unless you have a chemical issue. Since this is new, it's not chemical, so drugs won't do anything.

I recognize this issue. Boredom striking while you're doing something. Demotivation to continue. Are you getting enough (and consistent) sleep? IE a normal sleep pattern? If not, work on that first before getting yourself hooked on prescription stimulants which'll drain your wallet. Next verify that you are indeed enjoying those film/shows/books and not telling yourself this while your interests in fact lie elsewhere. Is there a single activity you are often gravitating towards? Verify you've not developed a bad habit bordering on addiction.

trapperzz · 2020-01-13T13:24:04+00:00

Big sign of depression

BiffBiffBiff27 · 2020-01-13T12:09:16+00:00

Yup. Early thirties. Fucking smartphone has been detrimental for sure. Uninstalling apps now, web only.

Avoid pharma, that is treating symptoms not causes. Plus may have adverse health affects on you.

You may be becoming a cynical arsehole too. Some shit just ain't worth doing, or rather isn't that important in the overall scheme. The more I meditate the more I get this, which is why I've put it off for years but now I find myself drawn to meditation - some part of us wants the Truth.

If you want a free hack, go nofap monk or at least regulate down to once a week or more. You'll have more mental energy available.

Throwaway9478927823 · 2020-01-13T11:52:47+00:00

Get checked for sleep apnea

Bokulence · 2020-01-13T11:27:24+00:00

Start getting cold shower for the next 30 days

Practice deep breathing for 15min, inhale air through your nose as much as you can, and exhale everything from the nose, do it again for 15min.

Cold showers will boost your focus and immunity and you will feel full of energy. You won't like it from the start.

fulgur3000 · 2020-01-13T11:51:45+00:00

same happened to me, lasted 10 years, is over now. It could be that you dont like entertainment anymore.Adult men were never made to swallow entertainement continually.If you're still able to focus on work, it's psychological and normal, and probably just phase in a cycle.Do not force feed entertainement, work out, work more, wait for it to come back without stressing about it.

NohoTwoPointOh · 2020-01-13T12:42:19+00:00

Do you smoke marijuana?

HoldenBalzac · 2020-01-13T19:06:13+00:00

Some of it comes from being successful at work, being good at what you do, after 5 to 10 years, you get bored with doing the same thing despite being good at it. You want to step into some new role, new job, some new stimulation. Need some new challenges.

Some of it comes from aging. As you go through 30's and 40's, you start to slow down a bit, sleep patterns change. Some of it could be low grade depression where you can function but don't feel much joy or pleasure in anything. Consider Melatonin (OTC) to help you sleep through the night. And start an exercise routine: stretches, cardio and lifts.

And some of it (losing interest in movies) may be that you've seen so many movies that the current ones are really predictable and hence, are boring. In example, I cannot care about movies based on a comic book character, they're all the same.

ryderlefeg · 2020-01-13T21:22:21+00:00

I have been facing the same issue for the past 4 years. I started new hobbies like martial arts and bodybuilding, and it seems to help a little. But I believe it's a sign of mild depression. I will keep my distance from pharma, though, and keep trying out new hobbies until I feel completely like myself again.

DannyTTT55 · 2020-01-13T12:17:05+00:00

Meditate an hour a day, and chill out

Listen to some Allan Watts maybe

Apfelstrudelboner · 2020-01-13T17:52:52+00:00

I am looking for adderall/ritalin- reviews on drugs.com make me cry. (...). I don't mind pharma at all, and I know I won't build a habit.

This does not bode well. What you need is things like diet, exercise, nofap, walks in nature and yes, healthy relationships too if not first and foremost.

KneeDeepThought · 2020-01-13T18:48:02+00:00

cut your caffeine intake and get more exercise. when you feel antsy go do something else for a while and come back.

Title	Off topic- Cannot focus/concentrate
Author	rishifilmmaker
Upvotes	13
Comments	19
Date	January 13, 2020 11:15 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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