This post is spurred on by a conversation I had recently at my church, where an older man advised me to not get complacent with my life because being a man is all about taking responsibility and having people really depend on you and that is how you become a real man. Internally, I cringed a little bit but outwardly I nodded along because at least the guy was half-right.

For a bit of context, I have a really great job considering the current economic situation and my own age (early twenties). The people are great and there is room for promotion and raises, and I am very much needed and appreciated. I literally thank God regularly for giving me such a sweet gig. Plus, I am still keeping in touch with my best buddies from college and I am trying to mske new friends whenever possible.

When I told all this to that older guy from my church, he agreed that that is great, but then in the same breath told me not to be complacent. This really struck me as ironic because I have barely held this position for three months, and everything in my life had been changing and uncertain until then because of the "pandemic". So really, this period of my life is a much-needed respite from anxiety and financial instability. So most people would wonder why he immediately encouraged me to shovel more responsibilities onto my plate.

A lot of people fail to truly understand the other side of this equation, and it is really harming a lot of men.

Here's the thing: slaves, servants, and many cucked fathers are quite responsible. People depend on them and people really NEED them in order to function in life. We couldn't function without the lower classes of highly responsible people, and many Karens absolutely NEED their responsible, loyal, and... completely emasculated husbands.

So when people drone on about responsibility and how young men today refuse to take responsibility, it is quite misleading and harmful to those who buy it. Basically, they are asking you to be more useful, but the problem is that your usefulness will almost never actually be appreciated or appropriately rewarded unless you require some kind of reward in return.

Traditionally, that reward was authority.

"You want me to provide for you and give you kids and feed all of you and work my ass off? Fine, but I am the one in charge here."

"You want me to work harder in church and work harder to improve my career? Fine, but I'd better have opportunities to rise and gain status and be respected for my contributions."

"You want me to make more money? Fine, but I'd better have a lot of say in how it's spent (e.g. low taxes, no nagging wife, etc)."

"You want us to protect women and take them seriously when they claim abuse or rape? Fine, but they had better listen when we tell them not to wear slutty clothes or go out with a bunch of men around alcohol."

So when old farts and women ramble on about how young men aren't taking responsibility, there is no need to argue. When they REALLY need you, they will offer you real incentives and authority to take on that responsibility. Until then, you have authority over your hobbies, your video games, your personal success, your sex life, and your relationship status.

Maintain your personal sovereignty and make yourself more valuable. Eventually, people will stop shaming you and start offering you rewards for your work.

That's all for now.