Sadness and Self Improvement

System-Witness · 2020-12-12T05:48:29+00:00

I find it easier to not entirely cut bad habbits out within reason and instead turn them positive like smoking for a boost of productivity or drinking to chill out. But within reason not to form an adiction only a small habit.

Different_Vehicle · 2020-12-12T06:21:59+00:00

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fushiguro_megumi · 2020-12-12T07:01:53+00:00

I can relate. Diet plays a role with how your day is going to play out. I'd recommend drinking a lot of water and taking a 5 minute cold shower every morning to keep depression away. Eliminate all junk food and make sure you're getting plenty of sleep.

I almost went crazy once because I wasn't getting enough sleep while I was also abstaining from porn and masturbation. Sleep is very important. If you can't go to bed at the same hour every day make sure you take a nap during the day.

2020-12-12T07:18:49+00:00

Why would bad habbits make you depressed?

I have a cigar once in a while or a nice drink. It's all about self control and ownership. The fact that you consider it a bad habbit already tells me you don't want to take ownership of it. You want to smoke a joint? Then go ahead but don't do it because you feel like shit but because you feel like smoking one to relax.

Having a drink ain't bad but do it out of enjoyment of said drink not because you want to knock yourself out.

Also, stop looking at the past. The past has happened. Learn from it and look to the future. If you look too much to the past, you will trip. We all make stupid mistakes ... this is part of being human. Take ownership and move on. It is now your turn to stop making those stupid mistakes and focus on something you want to accomplish.

Conclusion8343 · 2020-12-12T07:53:13+00:00

You might be were I have found myself often recently. Occasionally I'm struggling to find meaning for our existence, and the reason for why we get up everyday to pull ourselves to work, in order to get up and do the same thing the next day. What's the point? To reproduce, for the longevity of our species, to explore, to discover. Or is there just not a meaning to any of this?

The answer I have come up with repeatedly is this:

Everything means nothing but something can mean everything.

It may sound like it's trying to be philosophical, but there is a sense behind it...

Everything means nothing, because the fact is, we haven't been given a reason. No one has given us a concrete reason for why we are here, and so we often find ourselves wondering this question. But the fact is, the answer is undefined. Nothing has been designated irrefutably as the reason for why we persist day-by-day and reproduce. Hence, there is no real point to anything, and hence everything means nothing. Why get up in the morning if there's no point?

But then, on top of that base idea, you can extrapolate from that to come to the conclusion that, if everything means nothing, then it is up to you as an individual to define what your purpose is. You, as a solitary being, have the power to define what means something to you. And it can be whatever you want. And to that effect, something of your choosing can then become the focus of all your efforts. The thing that provides the driving force for your every action, down to what time you prefer to wake up in the mornings. The reason for why you look after your health, the reason you sleep early, the reason you schedule your time the way you do.

Without meaning, I think it's easy to get lost, simply because you have no direction to travel in, or at least, no reason to continue travelling in the direction you are. By defining your own meaning and finding a purpose, one that you enjoy or that resonates with your beliefs or morality, it can provide a drive for your life. And hence, something can mean everything.

Your meaning may be geared towards helping others, or it may be business and financially oriented, musically inclined, fitness inclined.

You may be unsure of what it is or what to choose, in which case try different things.

Also, bad habits are simply a coping mechanism that provide escape from the shittiness of life. Try to give life meaning to make it fulfilling to you, and maybe the bad-habits will sort themselves out, or at least be moderated to a workable extent.

Hope that helps

issacnewton901 · 2020-12-12T10:22:26+00:00

Change is hard, their isn't some magical sentence I can say to make it easier and with most things in life it is solely your responsibility. I've been through similar but not identical circumstances so I will tell you what helped me (note: I'm not where I want to be in life, it's a continual process).

Don't ask for help, sounds bad but that's what women do because someone 'has' to help them, no one is required to help you instead offer mutually beneficial help, find a way you can contribute to the life of a friend and they will likely return the favour.

Just be better than the day before, small gradual change is what is needed there is plenty you can do in your life that doesn't require immense effort (it's the little things) but still helps you with your goals.

Learn to plan and preempt life. You have a brain for a reason, use it to do what little planning you can for bad situations. Don't make decisions when you are emotional! Be patient and careful and you can avoid 90% of bad stuff in life. Especially if you can learn from others mistakes as well as your own.

Somehow you have made it to MGTOW that's great because that is something most people never will, so you are taking the right steps in life. Good luck :)

RJ_Diablo · 2020-12-12T05:52:09+00:00

Not to make leaps here, but I guess in my case it has to do with my sex drive. Even post red pill and going MGTOW, this drive won't stop. So I feel a great resistance within to go back to the blue pill matrix or to cut that desire at its very root by going offline. And I play a tightrope on this feel.

But nowadays I'm feeling more and more normal and actually content and happy just by cutting off wifi and putting down the phone and just suffer boredom instead of giving in and disappointing myself over and over going into the blue pill matrix.

vomGrossenFluss · 2020-12-13T07:41:27+00:00

Journal is a great start, write about your wishes, check how those changed. Write about your goals, don't be afraid if you fail at some or many, it's the regular way, write about how to improve your methods to archive your goals.

The way is the goal, it's that simple.

Find ways to control addictions, if you have any.

Writing and reread what you did, how you win and how you fail is a great start.

Title	Sadness and Self Improvement
Author	MrP-Body
Upvotes	16
Comments	9
Date	December 12, 2020 5:40 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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