Save me from this rut

roxon89 · 2019-10-29T03:42:45+00:00

Most of what you’re experiencing is perfectly normal for 22.

You think everyone around you has their shit together because you just see the carefully curated facade they put forth on social media.

Trust me when I say almost no one knows what they are doing when they are 22.

Work hard, Eat right. And enjoy life.

DannyTTT55 · 2019-10-29T04:22:57+00:00

Those same girls who tell you to look at yourself in the mirror will turn around and write letters to murderers in prison

If you're a regular decent human being, you have nothing to be ashamed about

Get some hobbies, get a job and workout. Basing your value on female opinion is the dumbest thing you can do

ValhallaBoundBoy · 2019-10-29T04:27:46+00:00

I'd need to know more to be of any real help to you. But it sounds like you're directionless and perhaps living off of parents. Here is the thing, if your job starts in 6 months why are you waiting for it? Especially since it doesn't pay much? Just go find another job.

Here is the thing. Right now, where you are, it sounds like you have a lot of problems. You have no job, and by extension, you lack the opportunities to treat yourself to fun things and are likely living with your parents which limits your freedom. Young men are supposed to go into the world and make a name for themselves. You are seemingly ugly, which you see as a problem despite the fact that it may not be fixable. You are fattening if not entirely fat, and when you look to the future you just see these problems persisting because not a single one seems to have a solution.

And yet, a single one could. You did get your job, but as you said your 'happiness was short-lived'. Why? You got the job. Shouldn't you be happy knowing you stepped forward? You haven't stepped back since then. The biggest problem with our modern world is that we are no longer grateful. We no longer take the time to appreciate what we have or even what we have done. How are you ever going to be happy if you expect to do something as big as getting a new job every single week just to be happy?

So let go of that. Make a list of things you want or things you want to work on. They can be simple

Get a REAL starter job
Get your diet under control
Start working out
dedicate yourself to a craft or hobby you are interested in
Find the proper career path beyond this starter job.

There's your list. Fill in the gaps with your more specific plans, but that is it. What you do now is you dedicate yourself entirely to number 1: get a job. This one is the most important because it provides a stable ground from which you can build out from. Instead of focusing on a million things you might be doing wrong simply focus on this. The rest is on the back burner until you can get a proper job.

Then, once you get that job, give yourself a month to just work the job, find your footing, and then move on to number 2: diet. Now that you have your own money you can better control what you eat. You will still likely eat whatever the family does with dinner, but you can control your breakfast and your lunch. Balance that against your dinner. Give yourself a month to find your footing.

Then comes number three: working out. Sign up at a gym. Spend a month getting used to that, and then move on to step for. So on and so forth. The key is to focus on fixing one part of your life at a time. Everyone wants to wake up tomorrow and eat healthily, go to the gym, apply for all of the jobs, meditate, read, and work on a new hobby. But you can't just change your entire life in one moment like that with nothing but pure will.

Perhaps some people can. But you have shown that you can't. So don't. One thing at a time. And at the end of each day, you may not see results. You may spend all day applying for jobs and not get a callback, that is okay. Take the time to just breathe, for ten minutes, and think about how hard you worked that day, how you took a step forward even if you don't see anything changing in the distance. You'll get there.

If you'd like more one on one guidance, feel free to message me with your discord tag.

Kagedo3 · 2019-10-29T04:29:09+00:00

I’m 26, similar outlook to you and I still feel like that some days,

A tip that may help in short term depending on where you live(I live in a rural area)

Find something to take your mind off of things for a bit or practice some form of meditation.

I’m actually buying a bow next week because practicing shooting has always made me feel at peace for a little while and it was how my dad taught me to focus.

Title	Save me from this rut
Author	opopm12
Upvotes	4
Comments	5
Date	October 29, 2019 3:30 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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