It took a while for me to learn this, I am slow learner. There are two principles at work here.

  • Expectations are the cause of all disappointment which causes anger
  • How am I responsible?

If you lower your expectations, you will reduce your anger. This post is in response to where someone here stated that a woman is a retard for attempting to justify female behavior, he called her a retard. I then stated that for stating the truth she is a retard? He then stated that she should be accountable. Should means an expectation.

I then elaborated, if you want people to be responsible, only associate with people who are responsible. If they are not responsible, don't associate with them anymore. Granted this probably eliminates atleast 95% of society. Of course usually people who are responsible, expect you to be responsible. So it is a two way street.

Related to responsible is a sense of powerlessness. A sense of powerlessness make one feel angry. So it brings us back to the question, what can I do? So the guy made the post to inform other guys about the nature of women. So he has already done as much as he can.

Putting this into practice is difficult. If I get angry, I attempt to ask myself those two questions. Anger in itself isn't a bad thing, it can act as a warning device to cause self examination or it can be a motivatior. I am also not saying that you should not be angry, it is up to you.

Just saying what helped me, and it took me a long time to get it and still need lots of work.