I'm single, obviously not married. But when I look at the men around me, what do I see by way of examples?

Man 1) Was already divorced once. Made an incredibly shrewd real estate investment in 2000, 5 years before he met second wife, bought a place for 47k and added an upper story. Now worth about 650k. As soon as he retired, second wife left him and he was forced to pay 325k out of his retirement savings to buy out her side of the house, even though she has a job and is about 15 years younger. It has decimated him.

Man 2) Wife expects the best of everything, but is kinda lazy. Said to him "once you earn 100k, I can stay home and do my hobbies". Nevermind that they have massive mortgage and huge car loan debt. She was always big, even for the wedding, but eats a horrendous diet, does no exercise, eats in bed most of the time, and is getting bigger and bigger rapidly. On the way to massive scale obesity. This is his second wife. First got pregnant almost immediately upon dating (baby trap?). They married. After just a few years she cheated on him with her high school sweatheart. He walked away and washed his hands of the kid, said that he didn't want the kid to be confused by having 2 father figures.

Man 3) Got a fairly hot woman and married her. She got pregnant very rapidly. Things fell apart catastrophically well before the child was born. He owned an apartment bought for 300k and well on the way to being paid off I guess, increased in value to 800k, which she had moved into. Now divorced, he had to massively remortgage the property, shared custody of the kid. In his words, she was pretending to be the sort of woman that she thought he wanted, she was acting out a deceitful role all along, but then the borderline personality tendencies came to the fore once he was trapped. A disaster. I think he was probably drunk on the big tits and feeling the reproductive itch and didn't dig deep enough for red flags, but just a guess.

I could go on and on, at least 4 or 5 terrible examples that I'm aware of. In fact, I literally cannot think of any relationship at all amongst my male friends that I am envious of. About the best 2 relationships I know of amongst the men that I know involve women who are loyal and have great character / personalities, both very intelligent, one extremely good with savvy real estate investing, etc, but I could simply never get over the obesity. Another guy I know has a kid, wife works 3 days a week for awesome pay, out-earning him, but apparently has depression since the birth of the child. He doesn't seem the same man and said to me that the best time of his life was in mid 30s after gf of 10 years suddenly dumped him without explanation (monkey branch for a wealthier male in my view) and he went MGTOW for about 12 months. He had money, hobbies, freedom, travel, etc, basically exactly what I have and continue to keep having.

It's hard to be surrounded by men such as this and then think to myself "Sure! I'll go and get married! A wonderful idea!"

GYOW gents.