There’s a girl that I’ve been friends with for years. We met at Work about 5 years ago when she was 18 and I was 27. We get on really well and have gone through periods of being incredibly close, though I always respected the age gap, her boyfriend, didn’t want to feel like I was taking advantage of her etc. But it’s hard when some chick repeatedly calls you at 4am when she’s drunk. So I developed some oneitis for this girl over those 3 years we worked together and the 2 years since. We’ve had numerous conversations over the years where she has professed having incredibly strong ‘feelings’ for me but ‘Just can’t do that’ to her boyfriend. So yeah, dead end, I let it go and moved on. Not wanting to lose my friend, I asked her when she left work if it would be ok to meet up sometimes. And she said that would be fine. So we did, about every month or so for a while. Then nothing for about 9 months. Until now. 3 times since October. Now she’s pressuring me to meet up again and ‘do more than just dinner’.

I find that so weird. She’s obviously trying to monkey branch, but I don’t understand why now? She could’ve had me 5 years ago. Now she’s just gonna get burned.