Why Do I Feel Triggered to End Things?

mongolian_usa · 2019-07-27T23:40:58+00:00

Been there, done that. You'll be ok. Since you're close to finishing do that, and ride out whatever happens with your company. When that dust settles, plan a camping trip anywhere for as long as you need it. A week, two weeks, three, a month if you need it. Do it regardless of whether the time or money isn't quite right. Just say F-it and take time for yourself and enjoy nature.

I did this at the worst possible time when I was a little bit younger than you. I was also in a lot of debt and didn't have much money to my name, I took off to camp in the desert for a month. I borrowed enough money to cover what I was short on to be able to feed myself and get back home. I've done this two other times in my life as I got older to help get my head right, and it's proven to be the right move each time.

Some times being in nature helps you to sort thru the BS life throws at you and show you the way clear of it.

Good luck brother!

roxon89 · 2019-07-28T01:00:46+00:00

Where did you ever get the idea that your life would be all squared away and perfect by the age of 25? You’re doing perfectly fine and trust me when I say it’s going to get better. Hang in there

Mgtaoteching · 2019-07-28T01:14:22+00:00

Hey, man. Please reach out to a professional to help you. Or call the suicide hotline at 1-800-273-TALK. I was in your shoes around the same age, and I’m glad I never followed through with taking my life. I found MGTOW, and that along with studying Stoicism and Buddhism helped me want to be alive.

Human life is a rare opportunity and we can either see it destroyed, stay stagnant, or flourish. Reach out to someone, and pm me if you like.

In the mean time, find something awesome to do. For me, it’s motorcycles and video games.

plsdeletdisnefew · 2019-07-28T00:23:53+00:00

find your thing. everyone has one...mine is a love for endocrinology and rugby weed and IPAS

StoicGiraffe1 · 2019-07-28T00:08:36+00:00

As per norm, personal resemblences help to identify the problem at hand. So, to help you, i will do this exactly:

I’m 25 and still live with family.

I am 26 and, by my predictions, will only live alone by 28/29. This is GOOD. You are young, are at the peak of physical performance, can do literally everything, and nothing is holding you back. Living with family at this age (i am from Portugal. Things here are different from the USA, country that i'm supposing you are from. Correct me if i am wrong) is good, because it shows strong bonds and nurture.

I haven’t even found a career specialty and hate my job.

I am 26 and only now finished my Bachelor's. Career specialities only progress (in the majority) in our 30's. You can change the current profession you are in, for it is simple choice in wanting to have a better psychological life vs having a continuous self-economy. You can also change through Stoic and psychological techniques to enjoy or, at least, persevere through your job without psychological harm. Think that it is a job, and has specific dogmas to fulfill it. The rest is only externals that you make important by emotions and feelings. You can control this. Before working now as a Professor, i was working in a supermarket, in the Fruit section, so i now about the thing with jobs.

My company is getting bought too.

Think this as an era that has terminated, with it's own values to observe and indoctrinate within us. Think about this not as a bad thing, but a good thing, for it lets you progress in values. Also think about this as an even better thing for you can change another profession now that your company is being bought.

I have one semester left and dreading starting.

I will see this induction as you "don't want to start to even think how you don't like studying what you are dealing with in your college course". Bear through the finality of this course and observe it's same values as your company being bought. Only after these empirical experiences do we really know what we like and want to persue. I hated Philosophy, i quitted, and only 4 years later did i fall within me to know that, all along, i like Philosophy and finished the bachelors 2 months ago. Only after our errors do we see clearly, for this is the human condition.

Along with student loans, I have a 180,000 mile car that is an 07 so could give out anytime.

Concerning the car, stop giving so much importance to external things. I am not going to go "whoa dude, this guy is so hippie, like, we can't live without things, man!" and that is correct, we cannot live, in the present, without some help from technology. However, cars are not a substitute for eternal happiness, and you can live without it. Learn to like public transportation, for it can be one of the biggest blisses if you like it. You will start seeing the human condition everyday, you will have time to reflect, you will have time to rest. As for the student loans, start to save some percentage that you think is appropriate right now to save for that goal. It's part of our nature to have everything resolved, but reality isn't like that. When you will have enough economy to pay for your loans, do that. For now, you are discovering yourself and are investing in yourself. These are major, for these are the overall themes that will make it possible for you to pay your loans in totality.

Why do I feel like just ending things all?

It is not just you, believe me. I have deal with hundreds of kids, teenagers, adults and elders that have these tendencies. Depression, Anxiety and Suicide are alarmingly high. In the present, one of our next goals (now that humanity has eradicated famine and hunger) is to achieve eternal bliss, and this is "done" by achieving certain goals, like getting better jobs, getting amazing partners, and just generally being accepted in totallity by others. This is not how you achieve happiness, however volatile happiness in itself is. Only when you cast aside these fallacies, work on being satisfied on what Nature has given you right now, and accepting your personal reality now, do you walk on the progress to happiness. There is millions of self-help books with this, but i will say that very few will make you do progress. If you want, you could start by reading some of Seneca's On the Shortness of Life.

I got back from a workout and ate a good meal.

And you will continue doing that, for a real sage man will treat his mind as well as his body.

I’m tired of all the responsibilities and not being ahead.

Again, there is nothing at stake here. Responsibilities are only certain dogmas for a certain goal. It is you that are applying emotion and negative feelings to this reality, and that is what is really harming you. Stop appyling these feelings to responsibilities, do them with a fully glad heart, and live happily! As for not being ahead: None of us are, and none of us really will be. It is human condition to want always something more, and it is rare for an individual to achieve bliss for what he already has. So stop thinking about being ahead, you will not achieve more happiness through this.

If all of this does not help you, just think that me, this 26-year-old man, with only a Bachelor's, still living with his parents, with a very low paying job that sometimes he is also doubtful of liking it, that goes to it by public transportation, and does not even have a driver's license, is happy, then so can you. If this still does not help you, think about me and many others that are exactly like you, and are here for you anytime you want elucidation on something, for i think the MGTOW community is very supportive of it's brothers.

Strive brother, and stop wanting these silly validations! Strength!

Title	Why Do I Feel Triggered to End Things?
Author	ItWillBeOkay_Hope
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	July 27, 2019 11:29 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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