Withdrawals

DocZTheRockstar · 2018-12-10T01:14:47+00:00

Don't fight the pain brother. Let it sink in, and reflect what has happened. Don't let yourself lose control over what you have control over. Mainly your mind, soul, body, and spirit. Unplug yourself. You know what's right, you know what's wrong. You know who was right, and who was wrong.

She might be on your mind, but AWALT. Once you understand that, no woman can completely plague you. Make a new path.

DangZagnut · 2018-12-10T01:05:41+00:00

You’ve been wronged.

Reaching for her is just muscle memory. It’ll pass. It’s like phantom limb pain.

badjoojuu · 2018-12-10T01:01:48+00:00

Never let any weakness show

Never let your head go low

Always let your good strength flow

And never forget what you already know

In the end you will triumph over any foe

Because you are a MGTOW... and a bro

KneeDeepThought · 2018-12-10T03:33:13+00:00

When I was divorcing, my therapist gave me some good words for my kids: "mommy and daddy couldn't be friends anymore, so we have to live in different houses."

It's still important that they have some kind of healthy relationship with her if that's at all possible. So as much as it sucks you can't badmouth her or anything in front of them. One day they'll understand you did the right thing by them and played the long game for their benefit at your expense. Just make sure they know they're loved and they rest will straighten itself out in time.

As far as the withdrawal, it's perfectly normal. We're social and sexual creatures we primates, and the oxytocin bonding chemical cocktail from sex takes a long time to wear off once it has its hooks in you. But, now you know it's just a drug addiction withdrawal situation that should help you push through it. It's just starved neuro receptors in your brain looking for their fix, don't let them make you think about exposing yourself to abuse again.

Sending brolove. We all get low, that pain is part of your love addiction passing. You're passing through the crucible right now and will be a better stronger father for your kids when you come out the other side.

Disbursed-operant · 2018-12-10T01:01:54+00:00

Unless you drove her to her Chad's house and personally guided his dick into her cooch, it is not your fault she cheated. Get that shit right out of your head.
It will take a little getting used to changing a habit. The mind instinctively likes inertia. It dislikes most change. When you feel like this, cut it off by recognizing that it's a natural feeling, that it is a habit, and that you are in charge and are making a change for yourself in making new habits. That'll help with empty bed syndrome.
As for the kids. I got nothing. No kids that I know of anyway.

Bottom line: this is a time of change. You can use the natural uncomfortableness that this change brings to spur you on to a better you.

You.....don't.....need.....her.

human6059504048 · 2018-12-10T01:48:37+00:00

im sorry bro . better days will come keep your head up .

strongandhappy · 2018-12-10T01:38:30+00:00

I'm so sorry for your pain, I can't imagine. But be strong, what you're reaching for was never real, it was never what you thought it was. The only path to recovery is in you, and you have to search for it however long it takes. Your pain is justified, your response is natural, but it's not correct, it can't help you, it will only hurt you. Focus on internalizing the truth and loving yourself and your children and gradually your spirit will recover.

flee_market · 2018-12-10T01:48:22+00:00

Stay strong. It sucks right now but it will get better, bit by bit. Way slower than you want it to, but it will get better.

In six months you will have learned to forgive yourself for the small mistakes you made. You will no longer blame the marriage failing on them. You'll understand where she failed and start to assign responsibility fairly to both of you.

In twelve months you will have healed enough to begin reaching out socially and filling the void in your time with friends new and old.

Save this thread and come back to it so that future you can see where you were at this moment in time.

Minds scar over just like flesh does. Memories become fuzzy. Details are lost. Emotional significance decreases. We forget the negative, and remember the positive.

It's too easy to view the past through rose tinted glasses.

Make a list of the ways in which she failed as a wife and as a mother and as a partner, and keep this list somewhere close by.

When your memory begins to scar over, when you start to wonder if you really needed to divorce her, look at that list.

Highborn_Hellest · 2018-12-10T02:29:58+00:00

It's okey dude. Time will heal your scars, but there will be remains. Keep your head up, and be the best father that you can be

badjoojuu · 2018-12-10T03:00:41+00:00

Of course it's not your fault. They get bored with their husbands after a year or two. That happens to everyone.

ChadManning1989 · 2018-12-10T03:38:16+00:00

It will pass; the Reaching for another.

As for the kids, just tell them that she chose the affair over them. How she betrayed them. Let them know that you still love them, and that you let her leave rather then hurt them more.

MarketWatcher9456 · 2018-12-10T15:42:51+00:00

Wait until the anger comes. You will wish for the sadness back.

TVTestPattern · 2018-12-10T13:14:33+00:00

...this whole situation of her affair...

Remember that time when she was cheating but you didn't know about it, and she came home... looked lovingly into your eyes, and kissed you passionately?

So... what does semen taste like brother?

You're welcome.

Title	Withdrawals
Author	badjoojuu
Upvotes	27
Comments	28
Date	December 10, 2018 12:53 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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