Friends while MGTOW

MementoMordor · 2019-03-18T20:05:21+00:00

I also lost my friends, got lucky and got a new one. A good hobby allows you to be around potential friends. Maybe all you need is doing something you enjoy with some dudes regularly. Maybe you'll meet your bff.

J_Milton_Jr · 2019-03-19T13:22:52+00:00

and it seems people are even less interested in wanting to just spend a couple hours to catch up

If people do not like to spend time with you, you may not be a good company

I also quit most major forms of social media, with the exception of linked in and Reddit.

this is often the only way people stay in contact today (people are just lazy) if you pull yourself out of it, that's the consequence

I ghosted most of those people that rarely answered

So you have little company and now you are ghosting people who do not often answer ... is not that counter-productive?

What's your advice on finding people that aren't just going to be completely turned off by my lifestyle?

I am politically quite rightwinged and conservative (besides id call myself a conspiracy theorist and esoteric enthusiast), most of my friends are atheists, liberals and REALLY turned off by stuff like that, but we still get along great... we either do not talk about certain topics, or I am very careful how I formulate things.

You have the choice, you either be very open and always honest (very few people like that and you have less society) or you are diplomatic and not always 100% honest (in my opinion this is simply "manners")

Most people who think they are honest are in reality simply rude and can not or will not make an effort to exist with other people in a society.

Not all people want to talk about politics, not all people want to make fun ... some people want to talk about movies, others prefer to talk about traveling ... see that you become the version of a person that others like to have around

psychosocialpursuit · 2019-03-19T09:50:06+00:00

Even without MGTOW (I'm new) I struggle to meet new friends. I'm 25 and I'm lucky to have two friends from high school still in my life. One will leave in a few months after dental school to another state. The other will be around for a few more years atleast.

I've spent a good amount of time hanging around the wrong people and wrong groups. Flakes. Fakes. And imposters. I have a lot of aquiantances. But never friends.

But like others have said, I'm sure my hobbies and goals will bring me closer to people I'm meant to be friends with. Till then I'm fine with not two friends and family. I dont need much.

batfish55 · 2019-03-19T09:05:56+00:00

Life changes when you get into an LTR. I'm talking about your friends, not you. When they go LTR, people generally like doing stuff with other couples.

Beyond that, you don't need to tell anyone you're MGTOW (although it sounds like you're not). All you gotta say is, "Look, I don't wanna get MeToo'd".

avtarius · 2019-03-19T01:51:52+00:00

MGTOW and otherwise, your priorities shift as you advance in life (chronologically, financially, etc) but so do others'.

It's only fair to assume birds of a feather flock together, most early acquaintances will drop off because their life objectives and paths will deviate from yours.

Basically regardless of how a human being thinks, we all react to another's value proposition.

So far I only have 9 friends (by my definition) ... The rest are just acquaintances I see no true value in exchanging my resources (time, energy, emotions, etc) for.

54yoBachelor · 2019-03-19T01:46:29+00:00

I have found this also. I have some good friends from childhood that I see a once or twice a year but it is usually over a meal or a weekend. They never bring their wives, not because of me but they seem to enjoy an outing without them. I consider them life buddies as we grew up together. Most of our time is spent reminiscing of our youth. I email chat with work mates but am not on any type of social media. I have recently found this website though, I enjoy reading it and find it helpful, entertaining and if I can give a little back, it does make me feel like I am contributing in a positive way.

I have lost' friends' over time and I believe it is because they are family men. Could be jealously or shame. I saw how they were unhappy in their relationship from either naggy wife or ratty kids, bills, inlaws ect. Some women are leery, for obvious reasons, not to encourage their beaten down husbands to hang out with single men. Might convert them while having fun. I don't drink, do drugs or hound after tail, so I don't see the threat as they might. It just isn't fun hanging around people with problems.

As u/EnigmaticRonin commented below, most in the flock are clueless. No direction, victims of bad decisions, wasting their most valuable time on meaningless activities, ignorant about the world and full of phoniness. I don't pity them, for they know not anything else. I do not engage with them in a personal manner, I'm just all business and worry about myself. I don't feel this is selfish or disrespectful but is easier than being fake about it. I am very comfortable with myself and live a mostly happy life. I read, game, workout, fix up my property, I'm actually busy and don't have much time for getting to know new people. The friends and family i do have, they are satisfying my social needs.

shimelessemekbeb · 2019-03-19T01:28:59+00:00

travel and learn that every expat there longer than a week thinks along sames lines as you. you're not alone homie. hit me up if ever in thailand

DJDickJob · 2019-03-18T23:30:37+00:00

The few people I hung out with(not musicians, that will be relevant later), that I've known for years, all got girlfriends within the last couple of years(we're all around 30 years old, so their girlfriends are starting to hit the wall, time to settle down.) 2 of them just vanished, when I told the other 2 that I still saw about MGTOW, they took it as me hating women. This isn't what made them vanished, what happened was they yapped about "DJDickJob hates women" around their girlfriends. That's when I quit hearing from them. Both girls started discouraging them from hanging out with me, and immediately after that, communication went dark. One friend just never responds, the other just told me off as soon as his girlfriend moved in. It's actually kind of funny and ironic, because if I was going to hate women, all of that bullshit would have been a good reason to add the list. But whatever. I ran into an old friend(musician) last year and we started hanging out again and getting back with other old friends(all musicians, all single guys) and we've been having a good time hanging out, jamming, writing songs, making beats, recording, getting high and listening to music, sometimes really high, and just having a great time. All single guys, all musicians, having a great time just living life. And I've told these guys about MGTOW, and they actually understand where I'm coming from and relate to it. I felt the need to make the distinction because it's a straight line down the middle of this group of people. The people that have a creative hobby and are happy being single are having most of the fun, while the people that worship pussy are busier, have more responsibilities, less money, virtually no time to hang out, and are missing out on all the cool shit everyone else is doing. Some people have no interest in music, but it's actually something pretty much anyone can do. Deaf people and blind people can still make music and be good at it. Even if you just sit there and bang on a drum while someone plays guitar, you are now in the world of music. Musicians are some of the coolest people you'll ever meet.

Seven155 · 2019-03-18T21:51:29+00:00

I have a similar experience. Used to be one of the “popular”guys back in high school. Now I’m in university and only have a few friends. (Almost none at university, most are from long time ago). The best ones are the ones that I play videogames with because we also go out and such. We share the same experiences, what I like about this group is that they don’t “worship”(excuse me if it’s the wrong word) women like the rest of my friends do. Someone scores at a night out? Dope! But no further conversations.

Couple of days ago I posted here about some friends that only talk about women and flex with how many girls they have in their dm’s. Happy for them but I don’t care about none of that. Now I try to limit contact with them. I enjoy being alone, something that I never experienced growing up. To become a better self, you have to love yourself and get to know yourself. This is perfect for me.

EnigmaticRonin · 2019-03-18T21:01:14+00:00

Meh, don't really have any friends to hang out with and I am ok with that. Honestly most people are aimless, or are still in the American dream simulator so they wouldn't be interesting anyway. Use this time to build skills through hobbies. Friends will come if it is meant to happen, but I do feel like a man must learn to be alone and not rely on the company of others. It is in this phase that one finds his purpose and gains intense focus on what he wants to do.

As for now I use people to learn, like if I need assistance learning motorcycle maintenance then I will engage in conversation to get the knowledge I need. Once that is done I move on and continue with my life.

Impossible-asset · 2019-03-18T20:41:12+00:00

You might lose some friends and gain others.

As people get older. Real life also gets in the way of things. Bills, work, just life.

Add to that so many people count their friends on social media and dont see but a very few in person.

It's just life. I havent had many friends along the way and I'm good with that.

Prototype_Grendel · 2019-03-18T20:13:50+00:00

I never had many good friends, but i have a group of old school buddies i grew up with that still games online together, even though we've since spread across the country. So thats good.

ResearchHealth · 2019-03-20T06:41:42+00:00

After being red/blackpilled that the entire scheme of "romance" is misleading, corrupt, and often dangerous

why not continue on to understand that the scheme of "friendship" is misleading?

Almost no one will care about you unless you are there as a prop for their self-esteem or helping them achieve their goals (even at the detriment to your own).

As someone who does not like activities centered around romance, food/drink, or nonsensical converation

it is rather easy to avoid pretending to have a lot of "friends."

Title	Friends while MGTOW
Author	Satyricon6
Upvotes	32
Comments	30
Date	March 18, 2019 6:47 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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