Excerpt: "Psychological independence is a cornerstone of a good single life, but we don’t hear much about it.  Oh, we get memes, one-liners, and slogans – be yourself, chart your own course, go your own way, maintain frame, be your own mental point of origin, etc.  But that’s about as far as it goes.  There is very little in-depth discussion of independence – what it is, where it comes from, how to develop it." 

"That is unfortunate, because, in my experience, independence is an absolutely essential ingredient in a satisfying bachelor life....”