Ok me (M34) and my wife (F35), 1 child 5 years old, have been married for 8 years and been together since September 2007 about 17 years now, we are from Venezuela long story short country went to shit we migrated to Argentina a year ago, in all this years have been a good relationship in general, shit went a little bit hard 5 years ago for the situation in the country and the born of our son I changed careers started programming and things went well economically we live in a nice neighborhood in Buenos Aires, I am the main provider still need to improve to get a better job but I am getting there, the problem is thst we don't have enough sex for me, in the best of cases 2 times a week usually maybe one time a week sometimes a full week with no action, she says that "you need to seduce me" I think is bullshit if I make a move on her I feel like a creep don't know how to explain but is like I am putting my hands in a stranger that would like to call the police at any moment but is my wife, when we have sex she makes herself available she sent hints and I make my move and it happens so for me the "seduce me" is bullshit,I am in shape, I go to the gym I have been improving fast the last 2 months and will continue, I am no Brad Pitt but I am not physically horrible, so as I see things here are the options:

  1. She is not attracted to me anymore and I should simple nuke my marriage ruin my children childhood, and just end it, I have no problem in accepting that, it sucks, but well at least is honest she is not interested and that's it, should at least be fun trying women here in Buenos Aires.

  2. I should focus in my MAP go to the gym, make more money, take away my attention, to the point that she starts to feel the pressure I guess that that is "Dread" and eventually she will enthusiastically fuck me again, I think that I am already doing this but I know that I have no guarantee of success here.

  3. Look for sex somewhere else, I read that is she don't want sex well I should just look somewhere else but this seems problematic I am really bad with women (have been with the same woman 17 years) also courting a woman involve time and resources that I really don't have right now, plus the possiblity of my wife finding out.

Maybe I am missing something don't know, I accept critic, comments, insults anything, thanks