Spit v. Swallow

RPMahoutsukai · 2015-07-09T15:06:36+00:00

I think it's not a shit test. She genuinely is disgusted by swallowing cum. It's just not her kink. There can be thousands of reasons why. And forcing the issue is not going anywhere.

Also, do you really want her to fake it? Do you want her to provide you a sexual service that brings her discomfort, in return for you providing her with resources - basically, buy sexual favors from her?

Flipping the script, would you want to fuck her in a pose that is uncomfortable, lackluster or even painful to you, just in order to give her better orgasms? Regularily? Faking it so that she believes you enjoy it?

Is this the kind of sexual relationship you want to establish? I don't think that's healthy, do you think it is? Is this the frame you want? Wouldn't you rather enjoy a sexual experience where both of you are satisfied, and left spent and exhausted after a mind-blowing orgasm for you and several for her?

Evaluate your sex life generally, setting aside the specific kinks. Does she want you? Do you fuck her good, does she want to be fucked, do you initiate frequently enough, does she reject sex often when you initiate, do you have enough sex? Look for shit-testing and dysfunctionality here first. When you have a healthy sex life, that is, she's almost never turning you down and you have enough sex, as much as you want, then you can move to specifics like how to get her to swallow.

You can find a lot of material online on this topic. For example, one thing I know is, for several hours before you want her to swallow, do not smoke, do not drink coffee. Instead, drink sweet juice like pineapple. This will make you taste better. Doing the opposite makes you taste bitter and not really pleasant. And have a glass of something nice ready for her to drink afterwards, if she doesn't like the taste anyway.

You could also find a good moment to talk about it, like, after you had some awesome sex (or after she gave you an awesome blowjob without swallowing). At that point you could giver her an honest question - "I want it, I find it horny, awesome and exciting, what's preventing you from enjoying it?" - and expect an honest answer from her. She may have a gag reflex. She may just expect it to taste horrible. She may not know (it may be some psychological trauma or just a quirk acquired over the ages of sexual activity). Tell her you're willing to try something (like, what I said above for example) so it'll be better, and tell her to try it next time. Etc. You can figure it out.

You're not negotiating desire here, and you're not yeilding your wants. Thing is, you need communication channels open for this, and it's not going to work until your sex life is functioning properly, and you approach this in a non-judgemental, non-angry fashion. With a proper frame.

TrainingTheBrain · 2015-07-09T14:45:28+00:00

I still want it dammit. I work hard, provide for my wife, step son, and our 3 kids... I fucking deserve it

But do you generate the tingles in your wife? You sound like you're stomping on the ground because you aren't getting the toy you want.

My wife said she doesn't particularly like the taste, but she still will swallow and let me shoot it in her mouth/facial because I own that shit. I don't ask her and and she tells me time and again that it's fucking hot to see your body flex when you cum in me, it's about inspiring that inner slut that exists in every woman.

My cum is my fucking Love Potion that I am giving to her, she'd better fucking love every drop of my baby juice. You should approach it with that mindset and work on reducing your bf% while working your game/dread.

Or maybe she just doesn't like it. If your only problem is she's sucking your dick and just spitting it into her hand or on the sheets, then you've got a solid marriage. Just get rid of the immature "Yuck, run, Spit" actions.

EDIT

Another thing my wife has said about swallowing is that even though she doesn't like the taste, she does it for me because she knows I want it. Dread my friend make your wife want to provide you with these pleasures so you don't find them elsewhere. To do that, she must know you can get it elsewhere. Flirt, dread, lose fat, do things by yourself, etc.

Master2u · 2015-07-09T14:53:14+00:00

Ask her if she will suck the boogers out of your nose instead. So Hot!

Title	Spit v. Swallow
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Date	July 9, 2015 2:31 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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