I have been married a while and we were getting into the usual routine of vanilla sex once a week. Usually on Thursdays, I would initiate, she would starfish, that was it. Over the last two months, before I found you guys, I would throw in a little anal play, a finger or two. The first time I did it, she gave me an odd look after. After that, she grew to expect it an one time even pulled my fingers to her ass while we were fucking. Other than this, my before story sounds like every other story in this sub. Regular occurrences of fighting/begging for sex, and only getting starfish at best. Then get a night with kids away, wife drinking a bunch of wine...then getting oral and decent sex. I figured, fuck this, fuck r/deadbedrooms. I don't want to whine on the internet with a bunch of other guys not getting laid... I wanted a fucking solution!

So, I found you guys on Friday. Busy weekend, had a wake the funeral, then Sat night a block party. I sorted top/all and began following the advice about confidence, being dominant, flirting, being mysterious, etc. Sunday morning, she is getting out of the shower, I'm getting in. Complimented her ass and tits, she's like "whatever"...but smiles. Then I order her to come next to...she tries to not do it, but I order again. Then I tell her to hold my cock for five seconds. She is saying she can't do anything right now, I'll just be frustrated, etc. I know, don't care, just do it. What I realized is, it's for her, not me, get her thinking about how she was making my dick harden in her hands, not all the way, but getting there. Normally, us having sex more than once a week is a fight and a big deal. But somehow I knew it was going to happen last night...but I wasn't going to let her starfish. I told her to roll over to me, in my arm. She whined about her back, but eventually did it. I locked my arm around her back, so she couldn't lay back down. She starts massaging my chest and then goes down on me. She used to do it more often, but I never cum this way , so it slacked off, but I am going to push for more. About 20 minutes of that, then I get her to doggy style. Normally, she never does this if the kids are home, for fear they could knock on our door...but last night it was on. And after years of marriage, it finally happened - anal! She took it like a champ and really seemed to enjoy it! I'm going to tread lightly with this...but I am totally going to be an MRP now. I've got a bit of reading to do, thanks MRP!