I did it

Rorshacked · 2024-12-28T21:13:15+00:00

You can’t guarantee it. But you can do your best. Be a good listener. Be kind to yourself when you mess up. Express your emotions and feelings (appropriately and in a healthy way). Oh, and work that v. Good luck! Enjoy these early moments in this thing dude.

Tvcypher · 2025-01-04T17:05:02+00:00

Easiest way to fuck it up is to be too focused on not fucking it up.

The effort to try and control the situation and in some small part the other person in it is doomed because it is impossible. When you worry about what the outcome will be or what the other person will do, you stop being who you normally are and doing what you normally do. That results in alack of connection with the genuine you and the other person which is what you actually probably want. The best possible outcome if you give up yourself to have the relationship is a half connection that you are not all the way present in and even in that diminished state there is no protection from the world impacting your relationship anyway. So might as well relax enjoy the ride and just truly connect with the other person. Basically control is the opposite of connection.

SapiusRex · 2025-01-02T14:05:16+00:00

Stay calm. Remember that your life and happiness do not depend on this person. Want them in your life, but don’t get to the point of needing them.

Title	I did it
Author	Hockey_Boi
Upvotes	10
Comments	4
Date	December 27, 2024 4:31 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MenSupportMen
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