"How you live your life will be the #1 determining factor in developing your body the way you want. What I’m speaking of here are factors such as your job, your love life, your time, and your stress levels. Let’s be honest here, if you have a ball busting job where you’re putting in 70 hours a week and coming home to some nagging bitch and screaming kids, chances are you would be an alcoholic over a bodybuilder. At least I would! I’ve been in positions before where I had such limited time and such a hectic schedule that my only release was drinking my ass off at night with my 2 hours of free time. It’s a shitty way to live and you don’t have to live that way.

If you’re a younger guy who is just getting out into the world, read this chapter carefully. If you’re middle aged and in a shitty situation, read this chapter carefully. The first thing I’m going to tell you is this; the bigger and more shredded you get, the harder it is to get females. Once you go beyond a certain point, it becomes much more difficult. I’m not talking about a lean and mean 185 lbs. here. I’m talking about a guy with a chest that is 50” with a waist that is 30” and tipping the scales at over 210-220 lbs. in single digit body fat. I didn’t say girls wouldn’t be curious or find it unattractive, I’m saying it’s more difficult to get one. It’s more difficult for a myriad of reasons.

For starters, it’s intimidating. A guy who looks like he could get upset and snap your neck as easy as blowing his nose can be a real issue. It also makes the girl start thinking she may not look good enough for you, since you’re so involved with the gym. It makes her even more insecure and she doesn’t like that feeling, so she just assume leave you alone rather than to step to the plate and give you a shot. She also knows that a guy in great shape with confidence isn’t going to tolerate her bullshit. You see, if she is with some geek and stops giving him sex, that geek will go take her shopping so he can get a piece of ass again.

With you, time spent together should be worth something in itself, you won’t be looked at like some fucking ATM machine that spits out hundred dollar bills for a shot of leg. And the second you are, you’re going drop her ass and move on. She knows that, so right there you will have that against you. I’m getting off on a tangent here, but there is a point I’m about to make here. With a large percentage of women, they are cool with you going to the gym UNTIL...... they let themselves go to shit. As soon as she spits out a couple kids and can’t get off her cupcake binge from when she was pregnant, now all of a sudden she’s pissed off with you working out. “You’re always at the gym, you are never home, and you must be cheating on me, and you should be working more instead!!” Blah,blah,blah........fucking blah!!

So what do you need to do to make sure you’re with the right girl? Find one who accepts it as you’re dating and never gives you any trouble about it, or find one who loves fitness herself. If that girl stays in good shape herself past about 25 years old, she will most likely stay that way for a very long time. If it’s just some dumb bitch with time and youth on her side, and she starts giving you hell about working out, DAMN SURE DON’T MARRY HER!! The problem dumb fuck guys have is as soon as they land a girl they stop doing everything they once loved. They’re so ecstatic they’re getting pussy that they follow a girl around like a lost puppy dog and they quit working out.

They mold themselves around a woman, which is absolutely pathetic and will eventually be the downfall of his happiness and freedom to begin with. He will be controlled by some nagging bitch and be too miserable to do anything else but get drunk and go to work. What a great life that must be, don’t you think? Do not be that guy. If you feel like that guy now, my advice is to get a divorce. I swear to God I wouldn’t even worry about the money or who gets what.

Yes, kids are the hardest part of the deal, but would you rather have your kids look at you as a fat slob who only works and drinks, or a happy guy who is in great health and has his life in order? You may think you’ll never live well if you split up, but I want you to think of it this way; it’s very hard to take a person who is used to a certain income and take him away from it. What I mean by that is sooner or later you’re going to find a way to live well and make it back. And in the meantime you can get an awesome physique, be happy at the face you see in the mirror, and bag some new ass with your new confidence and body. Chances are you aren’t getting any ass at home anyways, so why bother? " - John Doe Bodybuilding