Masculinity, Mourning, And My Recent Loss

JackFisherBooks · 2018-06-21T21:05:52+00:00

I wrote this shortly after I got some very sad news about my grandmother, who passed away recently. I was very close to her and that loss helped me realize how little experience I have with mourning. It also made me feel as though being a man made the process of mourning inherently more difficult. Maybe that's just me being melodramatic, but I sincerely felt as though there were feelings I had that I just never learned to deal with, as a man.

I've hope to start a larger discussion here and in other subs. Does being a man make the grieving process harder when you've suffered a terrible loss? Does anyone have any experience with that? There are a lot of things I'm learning about grief and loss. I'm sure I'll learn more as life goes on, but I thought I'd share my sentiments.

As always, I welcome any further insights others might have.

Razorbladekandyfan · 2018-06-21T22:24:09+00:00

No one ever told me men don't cry or any of that. I think it is propoganda. I cry when ever I want. However I am in control. I control my emotions, they do not control me. That is part of being evolved.

Sorry for your loss.

headingtoshore · 2018-06-21T22:26:49+00:00

This is only the second piece I have seen from the writer and I love it.

so idk. It's a glimpse of life, presented fairly enough that I feel like I could see it for myself in some small way, like it was not pressed to tightly through filter of one mans particular life.

at the same time, its an intimate glance, shared with us - not related to us, shown, not told.

what else is there to say? read it.

Title	Masculinity, Mourning, And My Recent Loss
Author	JackFisherBooks
Upvotes	8
Comments	5
Date	June 21, 2018 9:02 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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