"Real Men Don't Cry," Then They Commit Suicide?

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-12-08T03:20:03+00:00

One thing I'd like to caution anyone reading this against is thinking that taking psyedelic substances in and of itself is going to solve your problems.

Using them as medicine in a healing setting with an experienced guide can speed up the self reflection process and break open blockades that would otherwise remain locked, but just like with weapons (or cars) the use of these substances must be trained and practised under supervision by experienced guides.

Note that I'm making the above statements out of experience going down that route in the wrong way aka using them in (house) party settings with other people who were as inexperienced about them as I was. While I got important insights into myself and the nature of reality, I was not equipped to make sense of them and didn't have anyone around to help me with that. Which made everything worse by making me feel even more lost and disconected.

These substances are powerful tools, but they're just tools. And like all powerful tools they have the capability to cause harm as well as to cause good (think: kitchen knive). Which of these qualities gets brought out of the substance depends highly on the context & situation in which the substance is being used. To bring out these substances' good qualities, properly embedding their use in a therapeutic process is essential.

Regarding the content of his article:

I appreciate that he pointed out the hypocracy of women demanding that their partners 'be more vulnerable' only to loose attraction when the partner follows up on that.

I also appreciate that he pointed out that it is an unconcious process rather than intentional manipulation.

The point about the importance of body work in resolving trauma is also very accurate and well made. Props for recommending van der Kolk's book 'how the body keeps the score' as well. It's a really great and insightful work. Much recommended.

nyarlathotep999 · 2022-12-08T10:11:52+00:00

They always say that but then pretend the things that would make men cry don't exist.

deathislit · 2022-12-08T07:38:02+00:00

Just ask yourself who created this vicious system men cant be vulnerable?

Chadley_Chadington · 2023-01-20T20:13:27+00:00

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Title	"Real Men Don't Cry," Then They Commit Suicide?
Author	EricAllonde
Upvotes	50
Comments	6
Date	December 8, 2022 2:34 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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