Hello everyone I am looking to vent a little bit. I am 22F dating 27F and he has a child with 25F who is 3M. He is dealing with some legal trouble concerning the custody of his child who is in his mothers care fully because she accused him of domestic violence. The entire situation was premeditated pretty obviously with the intent to be granted full custody. Her cousin is a lawyer and is representing her case in court. They were together 4 almost 5 years and she cheated on him with another mom so he was ready to leave the relationship and began talking to an old high school friend romantically as they were separating. However when she went through his phone and found this out she called her lawyer cousin over, deleted all their text messages and woke him up (they were still sleeping together) by slapping and hitting him. She had called his sister and told her to come get him and his things. When his sister arrived they were getting ready to leave and he grabbed his phone out of her hands and left. When he got to his sisters house he realized he had left his wallet and went back to get it. He went inside and grabbed it and was about to leave when police entered the house and asked to talk to him. They told him that she had called them saying that he had hit her in the stomach as he grabbed his phone. In the police report she said the pain was a 7 at the time of being hit and a 0-3 when the police got there. No marks or physical evidence. We live in Oregon with very strict domestic violence laws, including a mandatory arrest law. He was arrested and was in jail for about a month until his mom could pull together the bail money. When he got out there was a restraining order in place and he went straight back to work to try and straighten his life out. We met around a month after he got out and he never really said much about the case other than he had a son and would cry when he saw little boys out in public with their parents or looked at pictures of his son on his phone. We have been together for about 6 months now and he has since told me the situation and I believe him completely. His ex has sent her location on ride-sharing apps to him repeatedly and called him on several occasions. None to which he responds or answers. It is so hard for me to see the man I love miss his child. He is a very composed gentleman and this accusation was meant to ruin his life. He cannot afford a private lawyer and is utilizing a public attorney. It’s only been recently that I think his attorney has taken him seriously as the facts have started to unravel. Any tips on how to help him? Has anyone else gone through something similar? I feel so angry at the abuse of the system. :(