I’m a big dude 6’2/240. Whenever I’m out in public by myself (running, jogging, walking, running errands) it’s not uncommon for women to intentionally put themselves on guard when I approach. I do the best I can to give him as much room as possible but sometimes it just can’t be done.
The constant looking back over the shoulder a bunch of times or doing the best they can to cover themselves with whatever they were wearing or try not to be seen, the removing of both headphones until I pass etc.
It used to make me feel bad about myself but now it just makes me feel sad for these women. We’ve created a society where harassment and assault is so common that women have conditioned themselves… And rightfully so… To be on high alert whenever a fairly large guy by himself is near them. I don’t blame them but I do feel sad for them.
Edit 1: get lost with all that “not all men” or “this has never happened to me so OP is making it up” crap.
Edit 2: if having empathy is “simp” more people out to be “simps.”
Edit 3: no, I don’t think all women are weak, shaking in their boots and terrified of men. I’ll see if I can rephrase this post so that message doesn’t come across. I can’t speak for all women everywhere and it would be dumb to try. All I can speak from is my experience and the experiences of the women I know. There are many many many women out there who are rugged, tough and more badass than I’ll ever even hope to be.
[–]maxlvb 31 points32 points33 points (3 children) | Copy Link
You need to be more concerned about your own safety than women's safety in public...
FYI:
77% of homicide victims are men.
89% of men will be the victim of at least one violent crime.
Men are over twice as victimised by strangers as women.
There only reason why women and apparently you fear for their safety in public is because:
Men need feminism, like bicycles need fish.
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[–]maxlvb 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Here:
http://www.gendercenter.org/gencrime.htm
And here:
https://www.smh.com.au/national/men-more-likely-to-be-attacked-by-strangers-than-women-20180703-p4zp5z.html
And here...
https://www.smh.com.au/national/men-more-likely-to-be-attacked-by-strangers-than-women-20180703-p4zp5z.html
Or here...
https://nortonbooks.typepad.com/everydaysociology/2009/05/who-is-most-likely-to-be-a-crime-victim.html
These are all from just the first page of a DuckDuckGo search using the search term Men are over twice as victimised by strangers as women.
Men need feminism like bicycles need fish.
[–]Punder_man 15 points16 points17 points (0 children) | Copy Link
The problem here is.. Society has conditioned men to think and act as if we are responsible for the feelings of women.
Ironic considering men aren't even allowed to be responsible for their own feelings..
Society conditions men to not express their feelings because it would make women 'uncomfortable' whilst also making us culpable to how our mere presence might make them 'uncomfortable'
Its just more of the same old double standards...
[–]John-Walker-1186 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I cannot believe how pathetic reddit is. I don't have the words in my vocabulary to describe how sad that thread and the responses are.
[–]UnconventionalXY -2 points-1 points0 points (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel sad for women being unwilling to moderate their fears with rationality, but continuing to put themselves in harms way because they feel entitled to do whatever they want without consequence.
The world just doesn't work the way women unrealistically want it to.
Harassment and assault is common because it is the inevitable result of biology when male's sex drive is not satisfied. In a sense, society has created the situation by failing to acknowledge why this happens and ameliorating it by providing sufficient options for satisfaction. Instead we limit male sexual expression to monogamous relationships where it's restricted by female control over access and punished for attempting to evade that control. Men are expected to be slaves for 18 years in service of supporting the children and the lifestyle the women want, where their own needs are irrelevant except when they happen to coincide.
Women's fears are their own responsibility to manage, whilst society has a responsibility to ensure the manifestation of the source of the fear is minimised.
[–]RockmanXX 3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Stop demonizing Male Sexuality as if its "bestial". I've already talked in great length about why Sexual Harassment is a "Women's issue", it has nothing to do with Male Sexuality. It has more to do with Men being obligated&forced to do the Sexual Pursuing. Obviously, men don't face as much sexual harassment because Women don't approach Men in large numbers. Occam's Razor, the explanation which makes the least assumptions is the correct one.
[–]Glum-One816 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
As a man, I fear to go to school.