Make a post in r/AskFeminists as a man, saying something like, "if my wife wants to become a stay at home parent of one small child, would it be unreasonable to expect that she picks up the majority of the chores?"

Then make a similar post with the genders reversed, "If my wife wants ME to be a stay at home father, should I really be expected to be doing the majority of the chores?"

Enjoy :)