I literally can't exist as a woman without that being an open invitation to sexualize me.

73 points•43 comments•submitted by Katricide to r/TwoXChromosomes

Recently I've posted(on a different account) some innocent, SFW pictures of myself. One of which was on /r/ToastMe, which is specifically for non sexual, wholesome comments. Not that it matters, but the pictures were me fully dressed, not posed in any sultry or alluring way. Less scandalous than most senior high photos I see.

But simply posting my status as a woman I recieved SO MANY PMs from men asking for nudes, roleplaying, asking me inappropriate questions. When I called them out for being inappropriate and unwanted, I was told my eyes were too sexy that they assumed that meant I wanted to talk dirty, that that's what I get for posting pics, I'm overreacting, etc.

Recently I saw a post on /r/pics where a woman was displaying some clothing she made, and the top of her fully covered butt was in the photo. I commented on someone being pervy about her butt and how that wasn't the focus of her photo and they shouldn't have said that. I got insanely downvoted, called a feminazi, said she was asking for it by taking the picture, etc.

For all the men who read this sub, in case you didn't know, WOMEN DON'T EXIST FOR YOUR SEXUAL PLEASURE. And yes, I am calling out men specifically. Overtly sexualizing women in nonsexual situations is explicitly a male issue. Sure, some women are guilty of it, but those are exceptions. It is absolutely an issue perpetrated in the vast majority by men and either encouraged or not discouraged by other men.

I'm an attractive woman. Men are often attracted to me. That's fine. But keep it to yourself unless I say I'm interested. Like, if I post nudes and ask for comments on my body or invite sexual chat, then I understand PMing me for more. But on an account that only has SFW, wholesome photos why the fuck do you think I want to hear about your dick and gross fantasies?

EDIT: And to further prove my point, I've already recieved PMs from someone with "convicted rapist" in their screen name, saying pretty much what you'd expect from them. You aren't hurting me, and you're just embarrassing yourself.