Ideally looking for advice from married brothers - How has implementing red pill ideas in your marriage has benefited and has it made you closer to Allah?

Beyondthet · 2020-05-31T12:46:17+00:00

Ahh, I definitely know we have some married Redpill bros here who posted in the past. But they are the minority and hardly post. Let's hope they reply in sha Allah.

Practical_Md · 2020-05-31T13:24:39+00:00

Pre red pill exposure, I would compromise my Deen and Dunya to make her happy. She was my mental point of origin. And it did not bring me an ounce of happiness but rather confusion and anger at being sold so many myths prior to marriage.

Now that I have been exposed to the red pill and positive masculinity for a few years, I believe it has definitely drawn me closer to Allah simply because I recognise my self-worth/value and acknowledge my purpose in this World and feel content after understanding the female nature.

The earlier you implement red pill theories covertly in your marriage, the better for you and your family.

MarriedMuslimMan · 2020-06-01T07:00:16+00:00

Assalaamu alaikum -

I would say that red pill knowledge is very valuable but also very dangerous. It can really damage your life and your marriage if you take it to the extreme. So benefit from it, but tread with caution.

Firstly red pill knowledge is beneficial because it's the counter to feminism. Sometimes feminist ideas creep into Islam, and if you are aware of the red pill response to feminism, it allows you to see more clearly: what does Islam really say about this issue? Generally speaking Islam is more "red pill" than feminists and most imams want to admit.

For me personally there are two things about red pill that I really benefit from. One is the nature of man to be polygynous. As someone who greatly desires polygyny, red pill knowledge validated my desire in a world that is trying to treat men like they are evil for wanting multiple wives.

Secondly, red pill helped me realize that frame is everything when it comes to women. Keeping "frame" in a relationship keeps your wife respecting you and keeps your wife being attracted to you. Men have to lead their women and never allow their women to lead them. This is what Islam affirms and this is what red pill teaches. Feminism wants women to lead men.

Here's the thing: Generally speaking Red Pill is a good scientific analysis of how degenerate men and women interact with each other. This knowledge, even for the Muslim, has its place. If a Muslim ends up in a situation where he's married to a woman who is less than stellar morally, maybe he's even married to a Christian, then the man can benefit from red pill psychology.

But I would say that most red pill knowledge goes out the window if you marry a righteous woman who fears Allah. The more righteous a woman is, the less you need to implement behavioral psychology (red pill) to make the marriage work in your favor. Everything just falls into place with Islam, alhamdulilah.

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