The harsh truth that no one wants to hear is that your personality is futile if you're not attractive. This goes for both men and women. No woman will ever give you the time of day if you're not hot, regardless of how you act and no guy will ever give a woman who they don't find hot a chance. And there's nothing wrong with it either, no one should be obligated to give someone who they're aren't attracted to a chance, but I just find it silly when people act as if personality plays any role in attraction.