So I’ve been pretty active on this sub as a viewer for a year or two, I’m 18m almost 19. I never even thought about all of the negativity and complaining that goes on here and on reddit in general. I myself have fallen into this complaining/ negativity category in the past so I am not all innocent lol. But I genuinely have seen the most improvement in my life and relationships, platonic and romantic, when I actively try to see the more positive things in people and scenarios. Like for example I commonly see people complaining about not getting any girls and how girls only date chads and all that Mumbo jumbo crap. But Fr if you just go out you’ll see there are plenty of women who are willing to date you. Just put effort into things like your personal sense of fashion, basic social skills, and interesting hobbies. Find something that you love to do it’ll improve your life. I started designing clothes on the side of my job and it honestly is a super fulfilling and fun thing for me to do. I’ve tried a lot of things, so try new hobbies until you find one that you rlly like. If you already have an interesting hobby get better at it. People notice when you are passionate about something. Also stop using dating apps, such as tinder, bumble, hinge all of em. Dating apps are completely based off looks and how much users are willing to pay for the subscription. These apps destroy self confidence and gamify our natural desire to love another. Go outside and experience life, if you have severe social anxiety I rlly recommend seeing a therapist or trying a natural solution like mj.If you do choose to smoke mj, don’t use it excessively and only use it when really needed. This personally helps me chill out and be more comfortable in social situations. Also stop trying to be funny, it comes off as awkward and weird. It’s way better to just stay lowkey and chill, if a situation arises where a subtle joke can fit then go for it. Conversing with others is easy too, find something they are interested in and respond to it in an excited manner. People love talking ab themselves so get them talking. Do some talking yourself of course. Oh and when first introducing yourself always say your name and ask for theirs. Try and find a way to get their bday as well. I ask for their sign and this usually sparks up a good convo about astrology or something related to their bday. Remembering someone’s bday is genuinely one of the most amazing things you can do so make sure to always do this. It can really make someone’s day if you remember. Ummm I think that’s all I was going to say. Remember life isn’t so bad and there are always solutions. It’s not always a happy life but it is a life worth living. If you need any advice or help feel free to pm me!