I’m getting out of redpill/incel/MGTOW mindsets and I can’t believe how much better I feel!

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My post from a couple of days ago:

https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/gd66cx/someone_please_help_me_i_dont_wanna_be_incel/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

I got so much support. I didn’t think I’d get it. I’ve posted on reddit so much for therapeutic reasons and met with a lot of hostility. I decided to just grow up and realise I was being an IDIOT. I’ve had female friends, I’ve got with girls in the past, I don’t deserve this idiocy and neither do women or those around me. I am gonna change, but not to “get laid” or anything. Actually, I suspected that I wouldn’t ever get laid and I literally didn’t care - because I wanna love women not hate them, have a healthy mindset to benefit my happiness and those around me. Im gonna fix my mindset and be happy, I might actually attract a girl, if I am lucky. But if it don’t: it’s okay. I’m not entitled to anything and if I was never to meet another woman again in my life, I still don’t want this hate and sadness in my heart. Thanks for all the replies and the many who private messaged me, which all of them were women bar one - which is just a great show of how kinda women can be and how diverse and different they are.

I’ve got friends, I was working out and continue to do so, I have hobbies but I wanna develop more, try out any sport I can once I get to college, go to college to better myself, all the while working on myself. I feel as if the past year of depression and suicidal thoughts are coming to an end - I have hope again.

Any guy who feels felt the way I did. An impending doom, like life wasn’t worth loving, happiness impossible to achieve - it’s all lies. I am choosing to be happy and have healthy thoughts! I can’t believe it just clicked, seeing women as people and flawed, but beautiful is just amazing. My heart is like filled with warmth! Thought I’d share this here to spread positivity to those who may have felt like me!

I was so sad for so long, I was so close to just giving up and joining the incel sub. But I didn’t. I fought depression and sadness for years and I feel like my life is worth fighting for now. It’s infectious, I’ve even been nicer to my family and spreading light to people.